Bonecrcker #144 - Why Women Are Attracted To Bad Men & Thugs

What I’m talking about is how a bad person ASSUMES other people (actually ALL people) are bad without seeing their behavior. They rationalize exploiting them, harming them etc. because they know they deserve it anyway. Either that or they reverse the meaning of right and wrong. As in, it’s a good thing to harm others if you can get away with it. It means you are strong and they are weak. This is at the core of why women are attracted to bad men (criminals, drug-users etc.) They see their doing bad things as evidence of them being powerful. They do those things because they can. This is probably the most dangerous lie involved in this situation. Bad people do bad things out of weakness, not strength. Women, being weak themselves, have no experience with this. Plus, they are self-deluded. They want to think of themselves as strong so they alter their perception to see being a bad person (ie, seeing someone who is just like them) as being strong, not weak. So, they look like someone who is exactly like themselves, only more so.

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Bonecrcker #5 – Women Choosing Losers
 
Bonecrcker #6 – Women Choosing Extinction
 
Bonecrcker #10 – Women Choosing Scum
 
Bonecrcker #16 – Women Love Assholes
 
Bonecrcker #84 – Women Going For Evil Losers
 
Bonecrcker #118 – Women Who Marry Scumbags

Bonecrcker #143 - Hold Out The Lure Of Validation... But Don't Give It To Them

One of the big differences between men and women is men want sex with a woman who cares about them and women want to have sex (only) with a man who could care less about them. But, both men and women want to have sex.

Part of the reason is women are soooooooo insecure about themselves. They desperately need validation that they aren’t worthless worms (which of course, they are, unfortunately). They know the truth of this, deep down and the very minute you give them that validation, they assume the reason must be because you are even more of a worthless worm than they are. It’s sick. Of course, it’s also exploitable. Hold out the lure of validation but don’t actually give it to them.

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Bonecrcker #142 - Buffy & Xena

One interesting thing about both of these shows is they started out OK. The female heroine is a legitimate human archetype. You see this very clearly, it being present in various myths, legends and other stories in every culture, including our own. Buffy and Xena were good shows with good plot. But, somewhere along the way, they were hijacked. The message became more and more anti-men, anti-family, pro-lesbian, and pro-evil. Ironically enough, the quality of the plots took a rapid nosedive soon after. Let’s face it, women do NOT drive the demographic for TV except the most vapid shows, specifically targeting them (i.e. soaps). Its men these shows were popular with…..probably because men are attracted to alpha females and the archetype of the rare heroine falls in that category.

What’s scary is I think this was intentional. Get men hooked on an attractive archtypal character…..then subtly manipulate that character to introduce negative qualities that aren’t really there, to manipulate men into finding those negative qualities (ie hatred of men, etc) to be desirable. Somebody with an agenda and a pop psych degree is behind this.

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Bonecrcker #17 – Movies Desensitize Social Problems

Bonecrcker #164 – The Media Is Being Used Against Us

The Fine Art of TV Repair

Bonecrcker #141 - If You Don't Have Sex On The First Date, Your Chances Of Having Sex With Her At All Are Slim

If you don’t have sex with a woman on the first date, your chances of having sex with her at all are slim. The other side of that coin is, if you have sex with a woman you almost always can have sex with her multiple times in the future. Your goal on a “date” is not to impress a woman with endless blather but to make an excuse for her to come back to your place where you can seduce her. MOST of the time, if you aren’t totally wasting your time with a girl, she will come back to your place under the slimmest of excuses. She is going back there for sex. If she balks, makes a weird excuse etc., you might as well get rid of her (your not getting any, probably ever). The excuse needs to be reputable (so she can pretend she didn’t actually go back to your place for sex…..women are ummmm, nuts). "Hey, come back to my place so we can watch this chick flick on my DVD," is good. "Come and see the A-frame I built next to my bed," is not.

This is one of the many lies women tell. They SAY, they want to get to know a man and generate a certain amount of closeness, before engaging in a physical relationship. But what they DO is is decide within seconds of seeing you if they will have sex with you. The invitation lasts from seconds to several hours, and often has absolutely nothing to do with you (ie, she feels like a slut at that moment in time, and you are acceptable). That’s not normal. It’s not a good thing. But, it’s the way things are.

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Bonecrcker #140 - Lesbian Women

I’ve had the unpleasant experience of getting close to several lesbian women and then finding out that they are bad people. One was actively working to subvert (her words) young children away from their parent's ideals and mores, as a teacher. Another was an employee of a phone sex line (like ALL women in the sex for money industry, she had 80% of her screws loose). Still another, who lived with her ex-husband (no sex), had “discovered” she was a lesbian at age 50 and shut off all intimacy with her husband but wouldn’t leave. Later, I find out she went on some “retreat” to have sex with dead bodies (you heard me correctly) as part of some voodoo rite. Another was a total mooching loser. And the last one never told me she was gay, had an intensely sexual relationship with me for several years and dressed more and more like a diesel dyke and then stopped seeing me for no apparent reason (cough, cough, new girlfriend, cough, cough).

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Bonecrcker #42 – Lesbians & Gay Men

Bonecrcker #52 – Man-Hating Dykes

Bonecrcker #179 – Subversive Teachers

Bonecrcker #139 - Religious Women & Projection

Women become devoted to religion for reasons unrelated to piety. Usually, they do it because they are nuts. That’s as in FUCKING nuts!  What’s going in here is one of the most primitive defence mechanisms. They did and continue to do (it’s important to understand that almost all of them CONTINUE to do) sinful acts. In order to protect themselves from the guilt, they need to project (as in the defence mechanism of projection) that onto someone else. One excellent way to do that is to join one of the more strict religions. Now, they can spend all their time pointing at other people and saying how bad they are.

Want to have some fun? Find one of these and start confronting them about their own bad behavior. They FREAK out.

An example. One friend of mine is divorced and soon afterward got himself a new girlfriend that had recently become born again (hehehe). She is always talking about men who cheat on their wives, girls who sleep around, blah, blah, blah. He and I play various online games and one day while we were doing stuff, I casually remarked, “So, how’s your new slut?” She happened to be reading over his shoulder and went ballistic…..screaming, jumping up and down, shattering dishes against the wall etc. Later on, I find out why her reaction was so strong. Turns out that she had been a swinger for many years. She started cheating on my friend. She was going out with her married friend and they were picking up grunts at a bar near the base and going to a motel room and having orgies (them two plus several guys). My friend found out and kicked her ass out. But, not before napping hundreds of photos taken with a digicam and stored on her computer. He had an X-rated Yahoo group about Asians (she was Thai) and he had those posted there for the longest time. Hilarious.

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Bonecrcker #138 - Sexist! Offensive!

The whole PC, feminist nonsense is only a half truth, as far as they are concerned. When a good (read, safe) man does anything even the slightest bit non-grovelling, it’s sexist and offensive. But if a man who treats them like dirt does it, it’s sexy.

The same woman who is highly offended because some 100K a year educated professional glances at her ankle, will happily spread her legs for homeless guy with missing teeth who tells her she is a ‘ho.

And we wonder why young men are dressing with their pants down around their ankles, going yo’ yo’ yo’ all the time, emulating this crap. They do it because being a normal person doesn’t work.

Women are supposed to go after dominant men. Men who take what they want and pay for it…..intelligent, successful, and charismatic. But, they treat these guys like losers. Instead, they go after DEVIANT men…..rude, ignorant, weak, bad habits, but most of all…..treats them with a single ounce of respect. In other words, someone who reinforces the way they see themselves and is a match for how they REALLY are.

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Bonecrcker #137 - Be a Lover, Not a Provider

I’m sorry to have to tell you this but things aren’t the way they should be. ALL women are flakes. And ALL women have sex with men right away (even the extremely religious and prudish ones). A woman SHOULD spend time getting to know you and evaluating your decency as a person……but they don’t. NONE of them do. Instead, they decide within a few seconds if they will sleep with you or not. If they decide no, you have zero chance with them but they will pretend like you do if you are aggressive enough or if you start giving them things. This always turns out badly. Even if they decide yes, they will make you wait if you start giving them stuff or if you act too interested (they want to see if you will give them stuff). If you hook up with them but don’t seem that interested, then they will go after you. Most don’t want to look like a slut and so will only do sexual things if you give them some form of rationalization. For example: We are going back to my place to watch a movie, not to have sex. The really insane ones act sexual and don’t care if they are sluts out in the open. Usually they are substance abusers/high risk sexual partners. So look out!

Your best bet as a man is to immediately try to sexualize any relationship. If a woman doesn’t cooperate, immediately dump her. The reason is simple. She either has decided no, and you will NEVER have a chance with her, so what is the point? Or, she has decided to exploit you first. And that sets a bad precedent. If a woman sees you as a provider, she will make you wait. If she sees you as a lover, she won’t. Normally, this should not be a problem. But women don’t respect providers. They abuse them and then dispose of them.

Be a lover, not a provider.

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Bonecrcker #21 – Who Pays?

Bonecrcker #136 - Not All That Opposed To Gay Marriage

Actually, I’m not all that against gay marriage. I think it is a bad thing. The reason I think it is a bad thing is because every gay person I meet seems to be a total wacko. I’m sure there are legitimately gay people out there (homosexuality is a present in most species so it can’t be a quirk of human failings) but I haven’t met them. Not only that, but all gay relationships I’ve seen have been disposable, with little to no real love or intimacy between the partners. This is not a situation that should be honoured within the religious institution of marriage. It’s disrespectful and cheapens the meaning of others marriages. Worse, it makes marriage a joke. This situation could change if gay people got their act together. Be gay, not crazy. Have REAL relationships based on love and intimacy. Then, marriage might be a good thing. That being said, a huge number of heterosexual marriages aren’t legitimate anyway and it is more and more becoming a simple contract between two people and the state. So, what difference does it make? Marriage has been severely degraded anyway. Gay marriage just doesn’t even pretend it’s a sacred institution anymore.

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Bonecrcker #52 – Man-Hating Dykes
 
Bonecrcker #60 – A Man Must Strive to Prevent Women From Having the Smallest Shred of Power Over Him
 
Bonecrcker #135 – With Gay Marriage Legal, Gays Might Stop Getting Into Marriages That Are a Lie
 
A New Kind of Bigotry

Bonecrcker #135 - With Gay Marriage Legal, Gays Might Stop Getting Into Marriages That Are a Lie

Well, at least with gay marriage legal, they might stop getting into heterosexual marriages that are a lie, living a secret double life and then abandoning their partner.

Then again, since most homosexual behavior has almost nothing to do with being gay but is, instead, a manifestation of an crazy person starting to deteriorate, maybe not.

It works something like this. A crazy person gets married. Having a long history of deviant behavior, particularly drug use and promiscuity (particularly promiscuity involving deviant partners, multiple partners and degrading situations), they decide to settle down and lead a normal life. What this means is they usually find a relatively normal partner, marry them and proceed to make their life a living hell with one out of control behavior after another. One day, they decide they are gay and abandon their family.

You can always tell what’s going on by the behavior of the person. They don’t just do this in a vacuum but virtually all their behaviour revolves around pathology and boy, do they make their spouse suffer during the marriage.

My friend, who decided at the age of 55 that she was a lesbian, comes to mind. The last I allowed her to talk to me, she had decided to go off on a retreat (she’s a witch, which is a major clue) where people had sex with dead bodies. She’s not gay. She’s a freak. And I’m well rid of her. So is her husband.

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Bonecrcker #42 – Lesbians and Gay Men

Bonecrcker #52 – Man-Hating Dykes

Bonecrcker #60 – A Man Must Strive to Prevent Women From Having the Smallest Shred of Power Over Him

Bonecrcker #136 – Not All That Opposed To Gay Marriage

A New Kind of Bigotry

Bonecrcker #134 - Choosing Not To Marry is Much More Involved Than Just Saying "Hey, I Don't Want To Be Married"

Choosing not to marry is much more involved than just saying, “Hey, I don’t want to be married”. Perhaps, the number one rule involved is you must never allow a woman to live with you for any reason. You WILL constantly run into various reasons why your current woman “needs” to move in with you “temporarily”. I use the quotes because near 100% of the time, the reason is contrived and the temporary will somehow become permanent. Understand that a master is trying to manipulate you. Whatever reason pops up will look natural, innocuous and important enough for you to consider breaking the rule. Your biggest enemy will be not having access to sex and affection from other sources, making that particular woman too important to you. If you care too much, she will use this against you 100% of the time and you won’t suspect a thing because you will think she is better than that (right up until the time she screws you over).

The best defence against this is to simply date multiple people. You never tell them about eachother except to let them know in no uncertain terms that you see other people on a regular schedule that is absolutely none of their business. You must constantly be looking to add new women to this list because the old one will cycle out at a rate anywhere from a few dates (by date, I mean you have sex with them and do something fun you want to do with them) to a couple of years. The relationship is time limited (it’s ALWAYS time limited, no matter what you do….date, get serious, get married, whatever…..no exceptions). The idea here is you and she ain’t close enough for her to ask for a major favor (like a place to live for awhile). And, you certainly aren’t moving toward any type of relationship. This directly contradicts what most women SAY they want with a man. Luckily, they are completely full of shit and will screw a man on a regular basis when they barely know him. All women do this (well, all women would do this but some are just too inexperienced or too scared or too nuts to do this)…..they just do it only while going through certain ”phases”. In other words, when looking for women to add to your harem, nothing about you really matters and how you relate to a woman is of minor importance. What matters is timing.  Is that particular woman in “whore” mode or not (about 50/50). Next, has she decided she would sleep with you (about 10%) which is almost entirely random but different women limit themselves to a specific social class (determined by how you dress and act) at any particular time. What really matters is, would she sleep with you, right now. This also is entirely random, but a good rule of thumb is, for any man, a random 1% of all women you come into contact with, will sleep with you.

The trick is to recognize her and then add her to your list of women you screw. With three or four pearls on a string, you become almost immune to manipulation. Certainly, you won’t hesitate to tell a woman to fucking get lost; especially if you are hot to add someone new.

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Bonecrcker #18 – Three Rules To Follow

Bonecrcker #40 – Relationship Phases

Bonecrcker #133 - Don't Date Women

The problem with "dating" is that you are spending time and effort to impress and keep them. Firstly, that’s a pain in the ass. It yields meagre rewards for lots of effort. Second, it doesn’t work. They WILL leave. Also, the rewards will be great in the beginning and get crappier as time goes on. Why not get rid of her? Seriously, you shouldn’t be seeing any one woman more than once every couple of weeks or once a month. She will ask for more. Your answer to this (and almost everything any woman, except your mom, asks of you) is no. If she wanders off, oh well. She was going to do that anyway. Ironically, she stays LONGER if you are unavailable. Don’t talk to her on the phone (30 secs = whoops, gotta run, I’m busy). Don’t call her until it is time for her to come over. Hell, don’t talk to her much at all except to tell her to do things. If she says no, dump her. Women only start to say no when they are ready to leave and nothing changes their mind.

The point here is you should be spending almost no energy on any one woman and instead should be focussed on screening the general population for new ones. Women are not sincere and they don’t care even a little bit about you, no matter what you do (although they will pretend otherwise to get something from you). Plus, they are near random in whether they will suck your cock or not 5 minutes after you meet them. The implications for this are immense. You should expend nearly no effort on any woman. Testing for who you will approach is, will she suck your cock….now! Everything else is a lie.……because they have gone out of their way to make it a lie. Of course, don’t tell them that. NEVER tell them that. They will constantly ask you why about different things. The reason you give them should always be some version of, I’m busy or I don’t want to or just NO! They will inevitably give you the ultimatum (spend more time with me or I’m gone). Realize that she already IS gone and is just trying to find out if you will let her torture you or not during her last days. Your answer must always be…..bye bye.

As incredible as it may sound, if you are an emotionally (often physically) unavailable bastard out solely for your own benefit without even a casual regard for her wants and needs, all of her friends will want to fuck you too.

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Bonecrcker #132 - Finding and Approaching Women

You can’t ask a woman for anything because it gives her too many points. You need to use body language and only approach the ones that matter. And you can’t be direct about it.

The basic behavior goes like this. Go places where you are likely to meet women (either go where women go or go where women go to get picked up). Make eye contact with every woman that crosses your path. Most women will not meet your gaze. Some of them will. After holding their gaze for just a second or two more than is socially appropriate, look away (not down, away). She might look down and away too, which is OK. After a few seconds, try to catch her gaze again and see if she locks gazes with you. Smile and nod to her if she does. If you feel aggressive, wink. If she holds your gaze this second time for an extended period of time and/or starts clustering body language signals of interest (read the book, Body Language by R Don Steele), that is one of the 1% of random women that will have sex with you right now, if you approach her correctly. It’s extremely reliable.

Approaching correctly means that you come near her tangentially. You seem like you are actually doing something else. For example: You see one of these women in the mall. Don’t go right up to her. Go near her and pretend to shop or look at something interesting. You strike up a conversation by noticing something about her and commenting on it and then asking a question. For example: "That’s a very nice sweater you are wearing. What’s the story behind it? Blah, blah, blah." Understand that women are completely self-involved. So shut your yap and look like you are paying attention and listen for cues for other getting to know you type questions. Tell her almost nothing about yourself other than your name and give her every opportunity to tell you even the most inane blather about herself. She’ll think you are the most brilliant, interesting man on the planet. When you can’t take this anymore, interupt her with some version of, "I have to go, want to come with me?" Whoops, I have to go home now and cook dinner and feed my cat. Hey, you know I making this great rice dish called Arroz con Pollo. I learned how to make it from this sweet old lady while I was vacationing in Puerto Rico. Come have dinner with me. We’ll watch this video I’ve been meaning to see……The English Patient; I think it’s called (hehehe).

The point here is she has already decided she wants to come home with you to have sex. But she doesn’t know that you know that. And, she absolutely cannot face this fact without a convenient excuse that she is actually going over there for something else and the sex is just spontaneous. Make no mistake, once you get her home, she’s the one who will likely be the aggressor, or will need very little prompting. If you get any resistance at all, it’s time to cut and run because you screwed something up, probably misjudging if she was a one percenter. A lot of women will show casual interest. But it’s the one percenter that will show focussed, intense interest. They are practically drooling.

There really is no work involved in finding her, other than in going to those places you are likely to find her. Don’t stay; don’t waste your time with pointless crap while there. Whatever you do don’t pay a cover or anything (if you go for the band or something, that’s me time and you should ignore women). Just recon the place looking for one percenters. Leave and move on to the next place if you don’t immediately find a hit. Get in the habit of scoping out chicks all the time, but set aside a specific time each week where you zoom through several hot spots every week. Don’t stay and waste your time. Show up, look, and if nothing is there…..leave.

After the first few times, it’s easy. The first few times are hard because you screw things up and it’s hard to initiate things because you don’t really think things work this way. Instead, you think all women are judging you and rejecting you (and 99% of them are). Until you sleep with a few, you don’t know that 1% is there for easy taking. I say the same thing to all my guy friends. Try it out a little at a time. The easiest part is scoping these women out. Go places and try the eye contact bit. Don’t follow up on it. Just try it out and see for yourself what I am talking about. After you are comfortable doing this for a few weeks, try occasionally saying Hi to one of them. Nothing complicated. Just Hi. You’ll be shocked at the result and soon, you’ll be doing the rest.

And for God’s sake, don’t give the time of day or anything else, not the slightest bit of respect, not a shred of time or effort, to any woman who isn’t one of these. A woman who isn’t sexually interested in you should be totally beneath notice. No staring at her tits. No talking to her. She’s invisible. Women are sweet as pie when they are in acquisition mode (you being what they wish to acquire) but they are evil incarnate every time else. Only extremely high probability babes deserve even an ounce of your time. Everyone else is wasting it.

Screw em.

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Bonecrcker #41 – Finding the Small Pool of Interested Women

Bonecrcker #131 - You Might As Well Be An Unemployed Loser Living In A Van Down By The River

You haven’t lived until you’ve given a woman hours and hours of continuous orgasmic joy, with the body you’ve spent hours and hours, making hard in the gym, only to have her dump you for some unemployed, drug addict loser who can’t get it up because crack has made him impotent.

There is no point. You would think that being virile, studly and dominant would get you respect and preference from a woman. It doesn’t. You might as well be a fat lump on the couch that burps. You’ll get the same amount of women (sad, but true) who will be just as loyal and attentive (i.e. not at all) as they would if you expended effort. Same thing with money. Sure, a lot of women are looking for a rich man to feed off of. But success doesn’t garner you respect or preference from women. You might as well be an unemployed loser living in a van down by the river. It just doesn’t matter.

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Bonecrcker #130 - Never Allow a Woman to Call You a Friend Until You've Had Sex at Least Once

I’ve been friends with many women and had sex with them. If anything, my sexual desire for them has made me a better friend because the level of intimacy and their importance to me is greater. The problem is, they won’t be friends back. Totally self-absorbed and obsessed with self-destructive and manipulative behavior, women aren’t capable of being anyone’s friend.

However, that’s not what we are really talking about here. We’re talking about a woman who actually rejects you as a man but wants to use you for something. To keep you in her life, she makes you a “friend”. But what does that mean? It means you are a second class love interest. You are expected to do things for her but are unworthy of her doing things for you. There are a great many things a woman COULD do for you as a real friend (for example, actually give a shit about you, lol). However, the only thing women actually do for men, is give them sex. At least, that’s the only thing my female friends ever gave me, despite what I wanted from them. Never allow a woman to call you a friend until you’ve had sex with her at least once. And for God’s sake, don’t believe her when she says it. You may be her friend. But she isn’t yours. She may be your lover but you are nothing but disposable to her. In the beginning, you have some respect from her that rapidly diminishes. When it’s gone, so is she. But if you start out as “friends”, there will never be even a shred of respect for you. You are NEVER a friend to her. You are that guy she keeps around that isn’t good enough to be her lover.

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Bonecrcker #35 – You Mean Nothing To A Woman Until You Have Sex

Bonecrcker #38 – You Mean Nothing Until You Have Sex II

Bonecrcker #127 – Timing Is Important

Bonecrcker #128 – Women as “Friends”

Bonecrcker #156 – Friends With Benefits

Bonecrcker #129 - Eye Contact

People don’t make eye contact with strangers. Especially women, who know this is an invitation of sexual interest. It’s also not an ambiguous thing. She isn’t just looking back….she’s LOCKING gazes with you. Often, she is running her eyes up and down your body before returning her gaze to you and doing all sorts of other body language signals. If you talk to her, her response isn’t all business but she’ll probably try to engage you in further small talk or even flirt with you. Without the gaze, she probably just walks up and goes, hmm, he’s cute, and then goes on her merry way. But, with the gaze, especially if you nod, smile or even wink, that changes things. It elicits behavior from her. An uninterested woman will actually be quite terse with you (lol, 99% of them), break eye contact with you, snap her at you (wench), and rapidly leave. Truthfully, though, you won’t know it until you see it. But once you see it, you’ll always be able to see it.

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Cary (1976) discovered that the woman, through eye contact, controlled the course of interaction with a male stranger, both in the laboratory and in singles' bars. Perper (1985) gave a detailed description of courtship, stressing an escalation-response process in which women play a key role in escalation or deescalation. The steps in this process are approach, turn, first touch, and steady development of body synchronization.

Although these reports are clearly valuable, most researchers addressed courtship very generally, and some failed to recognize the importance of the female role in the courtship process .What was needed was a more complete ethogram of women's nonverbal courtship signals. To compile such a catalog of flirting behavior exhibited by women involved in initial heterosexual interaction, more than 200 adults were observed (Moore, 1985) in field settings such as singles' bars, restaurants, and parties.

Research has shown, therefore, that the cultural myth that the man is always the sexual aggressor, pressing himself on a reluctant woman, is incorrect. -- Courtship Signaling and Adolescents: "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun"? Monica M. Moore, Ph.D.Department of behavioral and Social Sciences, Webster University

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Bonecrcker #48 – Sexes Approaching Eachother

Bonecrcker #122 – The Advantage The Big City Has Over the Small Town

Pook #26 - On Embracing Sexuality 

Zenpriest #18 – The Designated Initiator

Eye Contact Game - Chateau Heartiste

Bonecrcker #128 - Women as "Friends"

Women “friends” will ACTIVELY sabotage any attempt you make to pursue any other woman, friend of theirs or not. If they do find out you are with a woman, they will act all pissed off and jealous and may even get rid of you.

An example: I had this “friend” of mine from college. Occasionally I’d visit her and we’d hang out or something. Several times female friends of hers would be around and I’d ask about them. One time she told me this girl was a lesbian and that she absolutely hated men (I had sex with that one, hehehe). Another, she told me she was married (a lie). A third, she told me that the girl thought I was unattractive (I slept with that one too). The point here is my “friend” would continually try to cock-block me. The reason is simple: she wanted me for herself…..just not today (or any other time she had access to a man….I was her reserve).

I’d also like to point out that my “friend” thought it was just okay fine to let me drive 1000 miles to go see her and then not be there. I haven’t seen her since.

Women “friends” don’t care about you. What they care about is keeping a man (or several) in reserve, in case they want them later.

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Bonecrcker #35 – You Mean Nothing To A Woman Until You Have Sex

Bonecrcker #38 – You Mean Nothing Until You Have Sex II

Bonecrcker #127 – Timing is Important

Bonecrcker #130 – Never Allow a Woman to Call You a Friend Until You Have Had Sex at Least Once

Bonecrcker #156 – Friends With Benefits

Pook #5 – Lesson Two: Friendship – Abandon All Hope Ye Who Enter

Bonecrcker #127 - Timing is Important

Timing is so important. So is understanding the nature of “friends” as a non-sexual boyfriend/girlfriend relationship that can’t be sexualized (usually). It’s dangerous to spend time with a woman or to spend time talking with a woman without expressing a sexual interest in her. Every second you do that makes it more and more likely that the relationship will slip into the friends’ zone. It’s one of the key ways in which women are sick because in order to have a satisfying, loving relationship with someone, you need to spend time bonding with them. They go out of their way to prevent this important aspect of human existence. Instead, they size you up for manipulation. During this key time they constantly test to see if you will be the one to decide what happens or if you will be led around by the nose to do things that aren’t appropriate. One important thing they are looking for is if you will waste time on someone who isn’t your lover. If they find out the answer to that is yes, it’s all over. The best way to handle that is to be terse with any woman that you aren’t sleeping with. Don’t give the time of day to a woman unless she is showing strong signs of sexual interest. If she is, immediately try to sexualize the relationship. The problem is you can never ask for sex. Asking a woman for anything means she has something you want and she will use that to try and get you to do inappropriate things. Instead, you need to be seductive and suggestive (obviously, this only works on a woman who is interested anyway). You aren’t asking a woman for what you want. You are giving her what she wants. Key skills to develop are the ability to say no to everything a woman asks for, no matter how small. Later, give it to her, but on your own terms. Example: Can we go out to dinner tonight? No, I prefer to eat in. A couple of days later, surprise her with a night out at a restaurant. Delayed gratification. Perhaps the most important area to do this with is sex. Kiss me! Don’t be in such a rush.

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Bonecrcker #35 – You Mean Nothing To A Woman Until You Have Sex

Bonecrcker #38 – You Mean Nothing Until You Have Sex II

Bonecrcker #128 – Women as “Friends”

Bonecrcker #130 – Never Allow a Woman to Call You a Friend Until You Have Had Sex at Least Once

Bonecrcker #156 – Friends With Benefits

Bonecrcker #126 - A Woman's Need To Talk Is One Of The Key Methods Of Manipulating Them

A woman’s need to talk is one of the key methods of manipulating them. If you can act like you are actually interested in what they are saying, they will think you are a brilliant, interesting individual. Ironically, talking yourself lowers your worth. It’s best if they know as little about you as possible, so that their own mind fills in the blanks with something they find romantic. Your goal here is to sleep with them once. Because, if you sleep with them once, you can sleep with them multiple times, for as long as it lasts (usually, not long).

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Bonecrcker #58 – Women Are Narcissistic and Self Absorbed
 
Bonecrcker #73 – There Really Are Only Two Safe Subjects To Talk About With Women

Bonecrcker #125 - The Four Problems With Serial Monagamy

There are four problems with serial monogamy.

1) The woman won’t really be monogamous. Unless you are with her every moment of every day, she will sleep around behind your back, usually with high risk partners. If you ARE with her every moment of every day, she will hit on men in front of your face. This is really an issue of respect. A monogamous lover gets no respect.

2) Monogamy to a woman means she is setting you up for exploitation. Her ability to do that is very limited unless you are married. The pressure to get married will go up exponentially, the longer you are together. It tends to be covert, rather than overt. Very quickly, she will manufacture a reason that she HAS to move in with you. It will be very convincing (ie she will become homeless if you don’t help her). Worse, she will get pregnant on purpose. As far as condoms go, I’m sorry to say you have no choice but to use them 100% of the time and hide them so she can’t poke holes in them. You’ve been warned.
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3) Despite the universal push for marriage, the relationship is time limited….several months to a couple of years….WHETHER YOU MARRY HER OR NOT! Being married and/or having children won’t change her sleeping around behind your back, one bit.

4) And most insidious….monogamy is a tool women use to make you dependent on them. As time passes, your seduction skills atrophy. Often, she tries to fatten you up, to make you less attractive…..anything to eliminate your ability to get another woman. She will then ration love, affection and sex, to get what she wants….and use the threat of abandonment to make you give in to the most unreasonable (unreasonable as in, having a boyfriend on the side, unreasonable). Eventually, she will abandon you. The point is, she doesn’t make you dependent because she wants to keep you (indeed, she will soon dispose of you). She does this because she is preparing to abuse you and wants to make it so that if you left, you would never get another woman.

It is a very bad idea to allow any one woman to become too important. Self-sufficiency, ability to choose among partners, and extremely low tolerance for bullshit should be your goals.

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Bonecrcker #40 – Relationship Phases

When She Asks You To Be Exclusive... Play This Song
(It also works to just say, "I don't think anyone should be exclusive for the first six months." -- But the above song is hilarious!) -- R.F.