Bonecrcker #122 - The Advantage The Big City Has Over The Small Town

The one advantage a big city has over a small town is “the strip”. It’s different in every city but they invariably have a section where there are a lot of bars (the places you go to drink and perhaps listen to the band). Why is this important? Because a HUGE percentage of women go to these places to meet men. But, also, a huge number of women go to these places to waste time. How to tell them apart? Simple, the ones looking for men are alone. At the very most, they have one girlfriend with them. The less there is to do in the bar besides drink, the more intensely they are looking for a man. A good investment in time is to simply tour these places on Friday and Saturday night. Walk through looking for women that catch your eye (literally, catch your eye). Walking through a dozen or so of these places is bound to turn up one woman who is a hot prospect (ie someone who is both looking for a man and is strongly interested in you). You are literally anonymous until you home in on a high probability prospect (NEVER waste your time on anyone else…..it’s a losing game). You just don’t have that luxury in a small town. Everyone will rapidly know you. If you fail to jump on a hot prospect in that situation….1) she won’t be a hot prospect later on, 2) new prospects don’t show up and all the other women will have already permanently put you in the non-fuckable category, and 3) people will think you are a weak dateless loser for not being able to get some from your hot prospect and avoid you.

This is probably the only saving grace living in the city has and most men don’t understand it at all. They’re all going out and spending a lot of money (and wasting a lot of time) going to the dance clubs. While, all the women who want to actually have sex are out at the bars.

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Bonecrcker #41 – Finding the Small Pool of Interested Women

Bonecrcker #129 – Eye Contact

Bonecrcker #121 - Women Only Have What Rights Men Give Them

Women only have what rights we give them. The real core of the problem with women is other men. The men who open their wallets in a snivelling desire to get laid. The men who pass foolish draconian laws to solve problems that don’t exist. The men who promote women in return for sexual favours. The men who marry obviously inferior women. And most of all, the men who swallow the most outrageous of lies, rather than bother to think critically about what is happening both to them and everyone around them.

The bottom line is women have no real power, no intrinsic power. They are totally, completely and permanently dependant on men for power. This situation is deeply rooted in our biology and not going to change because some wacko broads think it should. We created this hobgoblin ourselves, feed it and keep it alive despite it’s obviously odious nature. The very moment we stop, it will evaporate in a puff of smoke. Women know this. Their biggest fear is we will wake up and know it too.

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Bonecrcker #120 - Women Pairing Up With Black Men Is Almost Always Based On Racism

To be blunt, white women pairing up with black men is almost always based on racism. You see this very clearly in specifically who those black men are. Rich, successful, educated black men have the fewest choices on earth, unfortunately. Black women of the same status are RARE and their access to white men isn’t very great (they don’t want them). Contrast that with black men from the criminal class which have ample numbers of black women of their same status around (sad, but true) and, more importantly, have great access to white women of ALL social status. These women view these men as scum and get involved with them as part of their own downward, self-destructive death spiral.

Contrast what is going on with Asian women and white men. Do you see large numbers of white men from the criminal class hooking up with Asian girls? No. What you see is large numbers of successful, educated white men seeking out Asian girls for the same reasons we do. They are trying to find a woman of quality. Most would prefer a woman from their own culture, just out of ease of access. But finding the well poisoned, they have no choice but to look elsewhere. That elsewhere happens to include various asian cultures, to a large extent. A few guys have an Asian fetish. But most just want a good woman…..and are willing to honor that opportunity by being a good man.

This isn’t a zero sum game, folks. The numbers we are talking about in all situations is quite small. Certainly, the number of white women with black guys does not appreciably lower the access of the average white guy to white women, at all. I can’t really comment about black women’s access to black men or Asian men’s access to Asian women, but it is probably not at all. What limits white men’s access to white women is the pathetically low quality of those women…..making high quality white women extremely rare. Black women (and black men, lol) have this same problem which is a separate issue that, quite frankly, the black community seems to have little interest in addressing. Asian men don’t have that problem and any asian man that is having trouble finding an Asian girl should probably ask himself why they are avoiding him….and fix it. Because, it’s not the white skin the Asian girls want. It’s the way those men treat her.

I’ll go even further than that. I’ve known women like this (even lived with one for a decade). When they aren’t in earshot of black people, they call them niggers. It’s strong, blatant racism. They actually hate minorities (almost as much as they hate themselves). And the only reason they are with a black man is they are looking for a man who is low life scum. They consider any man who is a minority to be low life scum. The more they fit the sterotype, the better. In other words, it’s not the black lawyer they think is attractive; it’s the black gang member.

This is a lot different than fetishism. Fetishism is only a perversion that gets in the way of forming a real attachment to your partner. This is something far more sinister.

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Bonecrcker #11 – Women & Racism

Bonecrcker #84 – Women Going for Evil Losers

Bonecrcker #94 – Evil, Not Power, Is The Defining Attribute Of Women’s Attraction Towards Evil Men

Bonecrcker #119 - Sleeping With Single Moms and Cohabitating

Unfortunately, I have had experience sleeping with single moms and cohabitating (not both with the same woman, thank God). What I have found is the mother will neglect her children in the extreme in order to spend time with you, doing one perverted thing after another. When she gets tired of you, she will use the children as an excuse to blow you off (sorry I can’t see you anymore, our relationship takes too much time away from my children). If you balk at this, she will take the “how dare you try to get me to neglect my children to satisfy your petty needs” approach. Many guys I know tell me that single mothers try very hard to turn them into a daddy for their kids. Since I make it a point to always be as disreputable as possible, none have tried that tact with me, yet. But I can see where this is a major thing to be careful of and a good reason to enforce a no contact policy with her kids. The worst part of dating a mother is having to endure her constant abuse of her children. The moment you say anything about it, you and her are quits. It’s fucked up.

I learned a very painful lesson cohabitating with a woman for 10 years. That lesson was that  women never truly become attached to any man, no matter how deep or intense the relationship seems, no matter how monogamous or even if you are engaged, married whatever. My woman and I were everything to eachother and planned to get married as soon as we both had our doctorates. I stood by her through incredibly tough times and took care of her, moulding her from the silly bitch she was into a capable and successful professional woman. And she walked out of my life without a second thought, for no discernable reason. Literally, the week before, she made me swear to never leave her and to love her forever. She took our love and murdered it, in exchange for something sick and unworthy.

This anecdote illustrates perhaps THE most important thing about dating American women. The relationships are disposable and the love isn’t real (although you will think it is, no matter how much you know better). Because of this, there is NEVER a reason to have them as anything but a fuck toy. That is what they are for. The choice isn’t yours to make and if you make decisions based on any other understanding, you are in for the ultimate ass kicking. Because of this, it is an extremely bad idea to cohabitate with a woman or allow your lives to become entangled in any way. She WILL be gone, sooner, rather than later, and will rip up any part of your life that is entangled with hers. Live together? Expect to be homeless afterwards. Married? Expect to be divested of your children, your home and your life’s savings.

When it comes to American women, just say no to any sort of closeness or permanent relationship. When you are ready to give up your 5 girlfriends who don’t even know (and don’t care) what your last name is, marry an Asian chick. This is no guarantee of happiness but marriage and sincere love are at least possible.

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Bonecrcker #36 – Just Say No to Divorced Women

Bonecrcker #163 – A “Real Man” Wouldn’t Shun a Woman with Kids

Bonecrcker #118 - Women Who Marry Scumbags

With rare exceptions, a woman who marries a scumbag does it because she’s nuts. So even if the divorce is his fault, it means she is bad news. An example: I dated a woman a few times who had only been with one guy before. They had known each-other since they were kids. They fell in love in high school, then lived together while going to college (she supported him, actually). About a year after he graduated he started smoking crack cocaine with a (supposedly) dramatic change in his personality. They were Catholic and she did not want to divorce him. But one day he came home and dinner wasn’t ready so he picked up a hammer out of the toolbox and bashed her head in with it. She was in a coma for 3 days and filed for divorce afterward (no kids). 

Even though it sounds like she couldn’t be responsible for this having to do with her, I later find out WHY he had been doing crack. It turns out that both are 3rd generation members of the mafia. He primarily made his money selling drugs and started using. Note that this woman is a doctor now. This is a disturbing example because it illustrates two things. The first is that women from traditionally reputable situations (professionals etc.) can EASILY actually be from the criminal underclass. The other is that, almost without exception, a woman who has to bail on a marriage with a dangerous man will have serious skeletons in her closet that clearly demonstrate how her own character is responsible for her being with such a man (it ain’t no accident). Unfortunately, you often have to do quite a bit of digging to discover this and are usually deeply involved with her before you do. I think it is easier (and more reliable) to simply assume such things.

Children out of wedlock, divorces (particularly multiple divorces), children of mixed parentage (unless they are married and successful), ex-spouse in jail, ex-spouse is a criminal, violent, has ever used drugs of any type. These are all extremely reliable indicators that you don’t want to have your life entangled with this woman.

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Bonecrcker #5 – Women Choosing Losers

Bonecrcker #10 – Women Choosing Scum

Bonecrcker #36 – Just Say No To Divorced Women

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Radio Priest and the female mind (a transcript)

Woman: I am confused. The man I am with now is the best friend I ever had, but I think I should go back to the man I was with before, even though he used to abuse me badly.

Priest: But you really feel a lot for the man you're with now . . . so I think you should do what your heart tells you!

Woman: My heart tells me to go back to the man who abused me.

Priest: Then you should do what your mind tells you. -- Kevin Solway

Bonecrcker #117 - Would Strip Down In A Room With A Crack Addict?

Let me ask you. Would you strip down in a room alone with a crack addict who has been arrested numerous times for violent crimes? Because that is exactly the type of person you are with when you get a prostitute. I can almost guarantee you will be exposed to AIDS, herpes, hepatitis, TB, and a host of other things you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy. This person belongs to the criminal subculture….a part of society it is very important to avoid all contact with, because it exists for the sole purpose of hurting normal folks. There is also the additional issue that many prostitutes don’t live that lifestyle by choice. They are actually slaves. Some are girls from the very worst situations domestically. Many have actually been tricked and then kidnapped into leaving a foreign country and then put to work in the sex trade. A great many strippers fall into that category. Do you really want to be a part of that…..hanging out with the Russian mob so you can have sex with an AIDS infected slave, and pay out the nose for it? Things are tough in the dating scene. But they’re not THAT tough.

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Bonecrcker #79 - Prostitution
 
Bonecrcker #92 – The Problem With Whores

Bonecrcker #116 - Can I Ask You A Quick Question? You Married?

I have this thing I do with all women I meet. At some time during the conversation (usually early), I say, “Can I ask you a quick question?” Then I look her right in the eyes and quip, “You single?” If I get anything but a quick, Yes, I say, “then why are you wasting my time.” This has to be done jokingly or they flip out.

This bit has two purposes. The first, obviously, is it is pretty effective at screening out the chicks that are married (ick) or seriously involved (ie living with someone). It firmly but politely explains in no uncertain terms what my position on such things is (a waste of my valuable time). It does this by owning the consequences of the situation. I’m not saying anything about her. I’m saying something about me. She’s not wrong for wanting to cheat (she is but she is never ever going to accept that judgement from me so why bother). It’s just something I don’t want and not wanting it, talking further to her is a waste of my time. It also mildly implies that she knew I wouldn’t want this and was trying to pull a fast one. And I don’t put up with that sort of thing.

The other purpose doing this early upon meeting a woman is it very clearly signals my interest in her as a sexual partner. This simply isn’t the type of question a potential “friend” asks.

Perhaps a third thing it does is let her know that I am the one who qualifies potential partners, not her. She needs to meet certain basic minimum standards, like not being married.

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Bonecrcker #74 – All Married Women Are Available

Bonecrcker #148 – Women Who Want To Cheat With You

Bonecrcker #115 - Women Go To Singles Events To Be Seen, Not To Pick Up Men

Just like going out to a nightclub, women go to singles events to be seen, not to pick up men. Going out in packs, they have no intention of going home with anyone. Any number they give you will be fake….etc. Unless you look like Brad Pitt or are a celebrity or obviously have more money than God, you can forget about it. This contrasts very heavily with going out to a bar, during normal hours (9pm to midnight, just about), to scope and hangout, maybe have a beer and watch the game. Any woman there, who is alone, is looking to go home with a man. That goes double if it’s an airport bar or the bar is connected to a hotel. However, be warned that those girls are usually married. Don’t bring it up (usually you do, but not here). Bars where business people hang out after seminars or while on business trips are where married people go to cheat on their spouses. It’s their turf. Overwhelmingly, she is going to want you to get lost afterwards.

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Bonecrcker #66 – Singles Events

Bonecrcker #83 – Women Go To Clubs To Be Seen And Cause Trouble

Bonecrcker #146 – No Cover Charge For The Ladies

Bonecrcker #114 - To All The Girls I've Loved Before

I think of all the women I’ve been with as people I care about and love, not objects to be used for awhile and then discard when I find a better one. Unfortunately, I know full well that they view me and the relationship (and whatever marriage they may undertake in the future, lol) this way, which forces me to adjust my behavior. It’s not natural for me to spread myself over several women, none of whom I allow to get any ideas about where our relationship is headed. But bitter experience has taught me that I really don’t have a choice in the matter. Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of women who will say they are different. They say they love me and they say they are loyal and want a life with me. But their actions just don’t match their words. After awhile I realized it was a deliberate deception. The way women REALLY see me is as a toy to vent their lusts on while they shop around for Mr. Right. Mr Right happens to be some weak willed schmoe with a fat wallet that they plan to suck dry during a divorce before they have even met.

Shopping around for the right partner is a euphemism for looking for a rich guy to victimize. The payoff for the time invested is his money. Women talk about this jokingly or in metaphor, but the behavior is direct and unambiguous. It’s a reliable pattern I’ve come to expect and have gotten good at avoiding.

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Bonecrcker #64 – On Players

Bonecrcker #113 - Everything Out of a Woman's Mouth is a Lie

Everything out of a woman’s mouth is a lie…..especially when they want you to talk to them about something. There can be no resolution of problems because there is no transparency, no introspective honesty on their part. What they want, as far as this goes, is to be heard, not to communicate. The act of being heard by another is addictive to them. If you are a good listener and can clamp down on your own need to say stuff, you can manipulate how they see you, and, indirectly, how they treat you. Good treatment comes when a woman sees you as powerful, desirable and very much prone to being stolen by the competition. One thing that has zero effect on how they treat you is talking things out, and working through relationship issues. The reason is simple. While you may be sincere and motivated to have a deep meaningful relationship based on equality, trust and mutual caring, respect, warmth and love…..she NEVER is. She may pretend to but it is an exercise in pain, as she manipulates you into doing one inappropriate thing after another while constantly changing the rules at random. But, take one step outside that door, and see her behavior change instantly. Of course, eventually, she will boot your ass right out that very same door. But she was going to do that eventually, anyway.

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Bonecrcker #93 – She’s Lying

Pook #6 – Lesson Three: Judge By Actions, Not By Words

Social Strategy: Why Men Shouldn't Argue with Women

Bonecrcker #112 - Who Cares What Women Are Thinking

Who cares what a woman may or may not be thinking inside? What matters is their behavior…..how predictable it is and most importantly, how you can (or cannot) get them to behave. You cannot get them to be honest, not cheat on you or respond positively to virtuous behavior. What you CAN do is get them to treat you nicely in the short term and severely limit the damage they can cause when they inevitably leave.

What’s going on with women is that they are freakin’ psychos. And being insane, it’s impossible to have a sane intimate relationship with them. You can either be forced to have an insane intimate relationship with them or you can have a sane relationship where you keep your distance.

Sad to say but relationships with women in this country are about power, not love. If you give up the former in pursuit of the latter, you will suffer.

However, I agree that one should never blame women for the way they are. Judgement is the first step toward acceptance of responsibility, then forgiveness and redemption. Women just aren’t capable of participating in that. Although men are and always should when necessary.

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Bonecrcker #95 – No, no, no, no, No, NO!

Bonecrcker #102 – What Matters is the Amount of Power and Choice You Have in a Relationship

Bonecrcker #111 - Gaining Power With Women

The way you get power with women is to get one, and then you have slightly more power with women than you had before. Where most men fuck up is they immediately stop trying to be with any woman except who they are already with. This is a normal and natural thing to do. You are SUPPOSED to seek a deeper relationship and foster love between you. But women just aren’t interested in that and actually disrespect any man who follows that strategy with women. What you should do is keep on looking for women and use the extra oomph you have from already being involved to more easily get a second. This gives you even more power with women so you can get a third. Now, it’s time to use that extra power to get rid of the ugliest one and replace her with a higher status woman. In general, women who are married are the lowest status as are fat women (i.e. they make a good starting point). Older women have lower status than younger ones. Richer girls are more status than poor, uneducated ones. And everyone knows that pretty girls and sexy girls (not necessary the same thing) have the highest status of all.

The only way to have power with women is to start at the bottom and work your way up. But, somewhere along the way (usually, right at the beginning) the women will try to derail you and get you to be exclusive with them. They rightly point out that it is the normal thing for men and women to do. Unfortunately, they have no intention of doing their part and your status drops dramatically if you take the bait. Simply say no and continue what you are doing. They will try to force you by walking out the door. Let them.

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Bonecrcker #24 - Social Proofing

Bonecrcker #44 – Women Have Contradictory Love

Bonecrcker #103 – Raising Your Sexual Status

Bonecrkcer #104 – Sexual Status is Similar to Employment Status

Bonecrcker #123 – One of the Most Important Reasons to Have More Than One Woman at Once

Bonecrcker #172 – Social Proofing Has Negative Survival Value For Women

Bonecrcker #110 - The Problem With Discussing Things With Women

The problem with discussing things with women is their half of the debate is essentially made up on the spot with no basis in reality and subject to change instantly to either prove them right or to support a decision they’ve already made at random. That’s a big difference between men and women. Men use critical thinking to make decisions while women use critical thinking to rationalize decisions they’ve already made. If the decision they made worked, the rationalization tends to be of high quality. If the decision fails (usually, it does) then the quality of the rationalization is intentionally poor, to cover up specific things they did that caused the failure and to avoid taking responsibility and (gasp) change, at all costs. Obviously, you can’t work out things or negotiate with a person who does this and shouldn’t even try. A side effect is they will hate you if you manage to box them in a corner analytically and will disrespect you if you just give up. It’s a lose/lose situation, so why bother? The limit should be……Hey, I’m going out to “fill in the blank”, wanna come? No. Ok…..bye. The bad news is she made that decision at random. So, you can’t change her mind (well, sometimes you can, but it’s degrading and just not worth the effort). The good news is, ask enough women and one will randomly say yes.

This is a far cry from being normal. But it is what it is. Normal would be a woman only considering men she thought were attractive and then getting to know men from that pool until she found one that was compatible, then focussing her attention on that man until love started to develop. Then start a sexual relationship with that man. No woman does that.

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Bonecrcker #51 – Don’t Argue With Women

Bonecrcker #93 – She’s Lying

Bonecrcker #95 – No, no, no, no, No, NO!

Bonecrcker #97 – The #1 Mistake Most Men Make With Women Is… Talking To Them

Bonecrcker #113 – Everything Out of a Woman’s Mouth is a Lie

Social Strategy: Why Men Shouldn't Argue with Women

Bonecrcker #109 - The Benefits of Boys-Only Schools

Boys want girls but girls only want boys who are part of the criminal class of society (their mothers taught them that boys like this are desirable by choosing men who are like this). Boys from that class can barely read. So, to avoid becoming low status, boys avoid all those things that are connected with being a normal, educated man. They start getting involved with things that attract girls, like drug use and gang violence. They’ve seen their mother kick out their father and spend time with every loser on the planet, so they think that’s what a successful man is all about. An unsuccessful man was their father who wanted to stay but was forced away and probably victimized financially by mom (ie he’s powerless, a loser, a failure). And people wonder why young boys want to emulate the criminal?

By having a boy’s only school, the men who ran it were able to control what brought a boy status. Gee, what surprise, academic success brings status in that environment so boys there seek it. That would have ended with the first girl student admitted.

If it was the straight A student/captain of the football team that was popular with girls, things would be different. Instead, it’s the failing drug addict smoking pot behind the gym while cutting classes. If he’s carrying a gun, he’s even more attractive.

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Bonecrcker #14 – Ritalin and Abusive Schools

Bonecrcker #15 – Abusive Schools II

Bonecrcker #26 - Fatherlessness Equals Fucked-upness

Bonecrcker #109 – The Benefits of Boys Only Schools

Bonecrcker #179 – Subversive Teachers

Bonecrcker #107 - Feminism is a Purposefully Destructive Ideology within a Larger Destructive Group

The more we analyze the pattern of feminist ideology, the more clear it becomes that these are NOT just misguided people with values that have destructive consequences. What they are doing, they are doing on purpose, in a shadowy, manipulative, behind-the-scenes manner. None of the actual issues matter to these people (indeed, they tend to flip-flop and have infighting on some issues), but it’s the destructive quality they are after, to rot out the very fabric of our society. And feminists are just a subgroup of a larger group that seems to be involved with this, that have their dirty fingers in most movements, particularly the extreme ones (like BOTH the far right AND the far left). They play them off against each other in whatever way furthers their agenda.

The guys at mensnewsdaily.com have a point. They rightly point out certain links between feminists and other dangerous subversive movements. But they are biased and selective at rooting out those links. They abuse this phenomenon to beat up on groups they simply disagree with on certain issues, while turning a blind eye to people who are playing both sides of the fence in whatever way causes the most damage.

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Bonecrcker #164 – The Media Is Being Used Against Us

Roots of American Culture and Community in Disarray – Bill Woods

Bonecrcker #106 - Captain Free Therapist

The problem with Captain Free Therapist is he thinks women are good girls. They’re not. With the possible exception of your mother and your sister, they are all horny little sluts. That crying jag when you first met her? She doesn’t care that she broke up with her boyfriend. That’s not why she is crying. She’s crying to attract the attention of some guy who will fuck her. Sad, but true. But any guy who would possibly try to, ummm, make her feel better or even be nice to her, just doesn’t fit the bill.

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Bonecrcker #35 – You Mean Nothing To A Woman Until You Have Sex

Bonecrcker #38 – You Mean Nothing Until You Have Sex II

Bonecrcker #127 – Timing Is Important

Bonecrcker #128 – Women as “Friends”

Bonecrcker #130 – Never Allow A Woman To Call You A Friend Unless You’ve Had Sex At Least Once

Bonecrcker #156 – Friends With Benefits

Pook #5 – Lesson Two: Friendship – Abandon All Hope Ye Who Enter

Bonecrcker #105 - Stalkers

You know, I’ve never met a man before who exhibits the behavior of a stalker. But I have met several women who have. I’ve even been stalked by a woman for a period of years. She would call up, sometimes say perverted things and hang up but later, just call and say nothing for awhile and then hang up. I’d move have an unlisted phone number and peace for a few weeks, and then she’d find out somehow and start up again. I had made the mistake of dating this woman when I was a freshman in college. I decided she was a deranged wacko and broke it off. Her response was to try and run me down with her car (hehe, she missed). After about 4 years of the calls, she lost interest.

A female “friend” of mine got involved with a married, soon-to-be-divorced man (yeah right). When he inevitably decided to return to his wife and child, she started to stalk him…..showing up at his work, following him around, and calling his house all the time. Stupidly, this guy fucked her again. Just after he came, while he was still lying in bed, she called his wife on the phone and yelled at her, “Guess what, I just fucked your husband.” And she doesn’t understand why I don’t want to know her anymore.

Like many things, stalking is something something most women do and only a handful of men do.

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Bonecrcker #1 - Abuse

Bonecrcker #87 – Abuse is a Game You Can’t Win

Bonecrcker #104 - Sexual Status is Similar to Employment Status

Sexual status for men is similar to being in the workforce. If you are unemployed and you apply for a job, everyone assumes you are an unemployable loser. But, if you go on exploratory interviews when you already have a job and make it clear that you love your job and would only consider being lured away for a 10% raise, etc. because you feel you could handle more important responsibilities, everyone wants to hire you. If you aren’t getting any, you give off defeated loser vibes and women look at you and assume the reason you have no lover is because you aren’t good enough for one. But as soon as you get one, all the girls just one step above her status-wise want to lure you away. The more women you have at one time, the more valuable you are.

The important thing is what you do after you get the first one. You need to immediately use that status to get another woman (to prevent the first ones leaving from being as leverage against you or becoming “unemployed” again). Then another, and probably one more just to be safe (each one is easier than the last, as long as they are all of the same status). Then you can start working on higher status chicks (younger, sexier/prettier, better personality, educated, wealthy etc.). You climb up the ladder this way. Keeping more than one prevents you from being pushed down the ladder. Any time you allow a woman to become monogamous you get pushed down a few rungs and held in place. You can only go down from there (and she will continuously try to push you down). That’s a big difference between men and women. Men always try to push their women up the ladder and make them and their lives better. Women want to push you down the ladder so they feel justified/safe to degrade you. Don’t let them do this.

The best solution to this problem is to enter a social situation where there are lots and lots of single women who are looking immediately to get a boyfriend. The number one place for that is college. Four year, resident living, slacker colleges (state colleges all the way up to big ten) are best for this. Every fall the freshmen show up and want a boyfriend within a couple of days. Better quality schools, especially engineering schools, aren’t very good because the women who go there are either dykes or neurotic freaks that care only about their GPA. Community colleges are good but only if you go during the day.

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Bonecrcker #24 – Social Proofing

Bonecrcker #44 – Women Have Contradictory Love

Bonecrcker #103 – Raising Your Sexual Status

Bonecrcker #111 – Gaining Power With Women

Bonecrcker #123 – One of the Most Important Reasons to Have More Than One Woman at Once

Bonecrcker #172 – Social Proofing Has Negative Survival Value For Women

Bonecrcker #103 - Raising Your Sexual Status

A lot of the problems with American chicks is that a 4 (slightly below average) thinks she is a 6 (slightly above average) who deserves an 8 (high quality). These women never get the 8. However, what they do is randomly screw men who are anywhere from a 1 to a 6. Most of the time they are stuck up, wanting that 8. But much like their eating, which involves several days of strict control followed by a binge once or twice a week, they’d sleep with anybody.

All women are like this, beautiful, ugly, single, married, young, old. Their status is mostly fixed. Most of the time they will only consider that high end range of their status. But alot of the time they will grab a random person from somewhere in a range around their status. Let’s say she is a 6. Most of the time she won’t even glance at any guy who isn’t a 10. But once or twice a month, she’d grab a 4. Once she has sex with that 4, HE BECOMES ONE OF THE GUYS SHE’D HAVE SEX WITH AT ANY TIME.

If you’re a 5 (ie most guys), you either need to limit yourself initially to women who you are a 10 for OR you need to improve your timing and be able to tell when women are in slut mode. Learn where women go when they are about to binge. Learn the behaviors they exhibit so you can first identify them and then exploit them.

Here’s the interesting part. A man’s status is not fixed for the most part. He can climb up the ladder by the number and quality of the women he is with. The average guy becomes a 10 when he is sleeping with 3 or 4 women 8 and above.

Since this is the game women actually play (as opposed to the love/marriage/commitment they lie that they actually want), men should become good at it and play to win.

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Bonecrcker #24 – Social Proofing

Bonecrcker #44 – Women Have Contradictory Love

Bonecrcker #104 – Sexual Status is Similar to Employment Status

Bonecrcker #111 – Gaining Power With Women

Bonecrcker #123 – One of the Most Important Reasons to Have More Than One Woman at Once

Bonecrcker #172 – Social Proofing Has Negative Survival Value For Women

Zenpriest #19 – How Women Keep Score

Bonecrcker #102 - What Matters is the Amount of Power and Choice You Have in a Relationship

You know, if women really were only looking for a good provider, it wouldn’t be that big of a deal. I mean, in most cultures it seems that part of what men are expected to provide is security for their wife and family.

The problem comes from the fact that most american woman are stuck in such a negative vibe. They don’t want a nice home, financial security and the best for themselves and their children. What they want is to exploit a man for cash while they screw around with drug dealers. They don’t respect themselves and they certainly don’t respect the provider…….which is why men avoid marriage.

I guess what I am saying is the problem is NOT a misunderstanding of the roles between men and women, miscommunications, needs not being met, whatever (despite what tons of closet homos, like Dr Phil would have you believe). The problem is the quality of the character of the average woman is very, very low.

One, you have no control over that. They will NEVER change, no matter what you do, unless they decide on their own to change for their own reasons (realistically, that just doesn’t happen). The only thing you can do is switch women constantly, making sure each new woman has a character that is better and better. But, since noble character is soooooo rare, it is the quality that gives a woman the most status. In other words, a good woman can demand any type of partner she chooses and get it. Unless you have worked your way up the status ladder, she has no reason to give you the time of day. Much less so than say, a penthouse pet would or an rich heiress like Paris Hilton would.

But two, you have to make damn sure you have the lions share of the power in any relationships you have. Why? Because you will have to constantly control negative behavior from those you are involved with. If you can’t or won’t, it will rapidly escalate into severe abuse. If you allow it to become very advanced, it will result in a marriage, plus kids, and then divorce, personal ruin and despair.

It’s sad to say but you cannot solve this problem by being sane, loving, and nurturing in a relationship. Although that is nice, it is irrelevant. What matters is the amount of power and choice you have. Both niceguys and evil men are harmed by women when they haven’t cultivated power in relationships. And both niceguys and evil men can have success with women, but only if they cultivate power and choice instead of love with women. The difference is the niceguy does it in a positive way. He says says no to all requests and refuses monogamous relationships. Although he cares about women, he is completely detached. The evil man, slaps a woman down when she “gets out of line” and laughs in her face whenever she expresses a desire or need. Everything out of his mouth is a lie or a putdown.

What is horrible is women cannot tell the difference between benevolent detachment and callous indifference. They are both equally attractive to them.

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Bonecrcker #60 – A Man Must Strive to Prevent Women From Having the Smallest Shred of Power Over Him

Bonecrcker #101 – Why You Must Never Give a Woman Any Money

Bonecrcker #101 - Why You Must Never Give a Woman Any Money

You must never give a woman any money, even if she is your wife, because she will lead you into financial instability. Even if she isn’t outright out to steal from you, once you allow your finances to mingle, she will wipe you both out.

A man understands that the secret to wealth is to live below your means and to invest that extra money, compounding the return on those investments into more investments. Do that long enough and you’ll eventually be able to retire and live off your investments. But women do the opposite. They actually live way over their means and seek to balance this extreme financial irresponsibility and instability by hooking up with a man who has money. Rapidly, her problem grows until it threatens to put you both in the poorhouse.

The only solution is to have a strict policy of saying NO to everything. Hey, I want that. No. Hey, I’d like to be a stay at home mom. No. Hey, I want an allowance. No, the only spending money you get is what you earn yourself.

And even that won’t work, because they will run up credit cards behind your back and then get into real trouble. Either you bail them out or they will face harsh consequences. Frankly, with what I know now, I know it's coming and would dump a woman who was getting into trouble this way.

Marriage is a sticky situation because most states force you to be responsible for your partner’s debt, if you know about it or not.

An example: A friend of mine was married and living in California. They got divorced. A whole year before he even suspected his marriage was in trouble; his wife stopped paying her withholding. Did she take that extra money and stow it away somewhere? No. What she did was waste it. During the divorce, this surprise came up that she owed the IRS $12,000. Only it wasn’t just she who owed the IRS $12 grand, they both did. And she absolutely refused to pay them. The feds, of course, starting tacking on all sorts of penalties and it ended up in court. In the end, my friend was forced to take out a loan to pay off the debt and hope to recoup half of it during the divorce. Only, her side started throwing delaying tactic after delaying tactic. She just wouldn’t give him the damn divorce already. Finally, after two years of this, he caved in and accepted a settlement where he shouldered most of the debt (including about $50 grand in student loan debt that got co-mingled, during their marriage). And she made more of a salary than him! Ah yes, no-fault divorce…..what a concept.

The only way to avoid THAT noise is not to marry.

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Bonecrcker #99 – Living Together is a Scam

Bonecrcker #100 – The Problem with Pre-Nups

Bonecrcker #102 – What Matters is the Amount of Power and Choice You Have in a Relationship

Bonecrker #100 - The Problem with Pre-Nups

The problem with a pre-nup is the stupid divorce court is out of control. They can and regularly do, ignore them. In the case of your house, even if it comes into the marriage as an asset that belongs to you (so, it should only be yours afterward) it serves as the residence for your wife and any children you have. The court can and will say that, since the wife and kids would end up on the street if you took the house, the asset is actually co-mingled. The same way that if you had a million dollars going into the marriage and were foolish enough to put it into your joint savings account, at divorce, the asset would become co-mingled and community property. You can have a contract (pre-nup) that says otherwise, but the court will just ignore it. What are you going to do about it? Plus, your stupid wife will do everything in her power to avoid signing the pre-nup, including dumping you. What’s the point?

The best asset protection policy is the one that she doesn’t know about (relying on financial privacy for protection) and that takes disputes outside of the rogue divorce court.

Hiring a divorce attorney before you get married to discuss all the nasty things that can happen during a divorce is a solid investment in your future. As is hiring a specialist in this type of protection to counsel you on what actually works and what doesn’t.

However, my own opinion is…..simply refuse to get married.

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Bonecrcker #99 – Living Together is a Scam

Bonecrcker #101 – Why You Must Never Give a Woman Any Money

Bonecrcker #99 - Living Together is a Scam

The problem with living together is it’s a huge scam. You think you are getting a girlfriend but the only reason she is there at all is to spend 100% of her time manipulating you into marriage, while blocking off your access to other women. If you don’t have options, her behavior goes hog wild. Your ability to walk away is severely compromised. You’ll definitely be abused and you will probably end up married.

Additionally, some states have bizarre laws that give a live in women close to the same ability to screw you as a wife.

Once the camel gets its head in the tent, it gets all the way in. You can’t get her out without your belongings being strewn all over the desert.

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Bonecrcker #18 – Three Rules To Follow

Bonecrcker #40 – Relationship Phases

Bonecrcker #100 – The Problem with Pre-Nups

Bonecrcker #101 – Why You Must Never Give a Woman Any Money

Bonecrcker #119 – Sleeping With Single Moms and Cohabitating

Bonecrcker #98 - Are Women Children or Adults?

The logical conclusion that women are just children in adult bodies is that they need to be shielded from the consequences of their actions, just like children. That is perhaps the single most damaging assumption that has resulted in our current unfair and draconian system of legal, social and employment double standards. Women are not children in adult bodies. They are adults with all the responsibilities that implies. When one shirks his or her responsibilities there are consequences. It is both inappropriate and the source of all our problems with women for us to make up for their bad behavior, both as individuals and as a society.

Also, what do you do with unruly children after you have shielded them from the consequences of their actions? You punish them, so they won’t do it again later on. Punishing a woman for her own good is a one way ticket to prison. Again, women are adults, not children. You don’t punish them. Instead, you force them to accept the natural consequences of their own behavior. Eventually, men will figure this out and we will have a new system that decides how society reacts to an individual based on merit, not on gender.
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Woman: The Most Responsible Teenager in the House 
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Women and Children

Letter to His Son – by Lord Chesterfield, 1748

Bonecrcker #97 - The #1 Mistake Most Men Make With Women Is... Talking to Them

I think you are making the number one mistake that most men make with women. You are talking to them. Trying to have an honest, equal, intelligent conversation with them is like me trying to explain to Pushkin that terrorists, Nazis, and Satan worshipers are bad people…..a fruitless endeavour. The problem is, they’re nuts and most of their mental power is focussed on rationalizing their nutty behavior. They will take every avenue to twist the truth in ways that are amazing to behold, and God forbid you should pin them down and dissect exactly what they are doing…..they hate you forever for it (and just keep on, keeping on). What’s the point?

Quite frankly, if you don’t want something from her (and let’s face it, that means pussy), then you shouldn’t be talking to her. If she shows no interest in giving you what you want in the near future, you should not be talking to her. Now, let’s say you want something from her and she is giving you major signals that she wants to give it to you. You need to talk to her. However, keep in mind two things. First, within reason, the less you talk the better. The more you listen to her, the more a brilliant conversationalist you seem (they are COMPLETELY self-centered and only one subject is a guaranteed hit…..themselves). The less you reveal about yourself the better. Women don’t love you, they love the fantasy of you and all that revealing just bursts their bubble. The second is anything you do say should be completely goal focussed. Think about this. You want something from her. The things you say to her should have the goal of opening the path to her giving it to you. If you are talking about something (rather than inane small talk) or explaining something, you have drifted away from your goal and are fucking up.

When talking to women, there are three things that should be coming out of your mouth. Inane small talk about something unimportant that you are both observing. Open ended questions about her. And various techniques for fostering attraction (for example, David D’Angelo has an excellent series on this). If one of these three things isn’t coming out of your mouth, you are probably explaining something or arguing. Although it’s satisfying to be heard by someone, it is fostering a negative image with her and every other woman observing you with her. You are driving the pussy off with a stick. Sad, but true.

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Bonecrcker #51 – Don’t Argue With Women

Bonecrcker #93 – She’s Lying

Bonecrcker #95 – No, no, no, no, No, NO!

Bonecrcker #110 – The Problem With Discussing Things With Women

Bonecrcker #113 – Everything Out of a Woman’s Mouth is a Lie

Social Strategy: Why Men Shouldn't Argue with Women

Bonecrcker #96 - Celibacy Doesn't Equal Immunity

A lot of guys I’ve known have thought they are immune when they aren’t dating and mating. Every single one of them got royally burned by the “woman who is the exception”. What happened was they were so starved for intimacy that they became a prime mark for some woman. Realizing that this was one of the men who know something is very wrong with women, she proceeds to pretend that she is the one woman in a million who isn’t like that. And for a while, she is. What happens is the man is so overjoyed at finally having some pussy that he turns a blind eye a few months later when things subtly (or not so subtly) change. He ignores “dings” (odd inconsistencies in what a woman does or says). He ignores warning signs and allows the woman to get a death lock on his life by moving in and/or getting pregnant. Sometimes she is actually able to convince him to get married, even with extreme warning signs (Honey, I know I was a drug prostitute during college but I’m a different person now, hehehe).

No man thinks it can happen to him. But it will.

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Bonecrcker #95 - No, no, no, no, No, NO!

Quite obviously all women have become insane. It’s not that they eschew logic (actually, they are quite good at coming up with rationalizations). It’s that they spend the lion’s share of their efforts seeking out insane situations, engaging in insane behaviors and basically destroying themselves and anyone stupid enough to allow them the tiniest bit of say in their lives. The solution is equally obvious……don’t give them even the tiniest bit of say in your life. When I say tiniest, I mean it. No matter what they ask for, no matter how innocuous, you must say no to it. You must never ask them for anything, even the simplest, most smallest thing. If you want something from them you must tell them to give it to you. Although you say it nicely, it must be a command. The very second they say no to you, you need to dump them.

It’s sad to say, but that’s what it takes just to prevent a woman from ruining your life, which she will do 100% of the time if you don’t do this. A woman can and will move on, eventually to find someone who will let them ruin their life for them. Not enough men know about this yet, although many more know about it today than just a few short years ago. Eventually, most men will know it and women will have few to no options for this. They will have to change or do without. It will start with relationships first. Few to no men will get married each year and a great many men will seek wives from outside cultures. Next, these same men will look at women in the work place and ask, "Hey, do these female employees have merit?" You’ll find few women being promoted unless they can do the job. Last to change will be the courts, as more and more, it is discovered that MOST of the female issues in court are based on lies. Most rape cases….lies. Most alimony/child (mommy) support based on lies. It will become very common for courts to assume a woman is lying about certain issues…..especially with regard to non-stranger rape and almost everything with regard to divorce.

However, it all starts with one simple word…..no. No is the magic word that will protect you from women…..today. No, we won’t get married. No, you can’t move in with me. No, I don’t want to meet your parents. No, that kid isn’t mine. No, you can’t have any money. No, I just don’t want a monogamous relationship. No. No. No. No. NO.

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Bonecrcker #51 – Don’t Argue With Women

Bonecrcker #97 – The #1 Mistake Most Men Make With Women Is… Talking To Them

Bonecrcker #110 – The Problem With Discussing Things With Women

Bonecrcker #94 - Evil, Not Power, Is The Defining Attribute Of Women's Attraction Toward Deviant Men

Women aren’t attracted to alpha males and they most certainly have no fear of men. Our society, on every level, goes out of its way to protect them. For most men, harming a woman is taboo.

What a woman wants from a man isn’t for him to be powerful. If this was true than large, strong, rich men with high IQs would be overrun with pussy. Sadly, this isn’t the case. At best, a woman looks for a man like this who is easily manipulated (a rare find) so that she can feed off him during the last stages of her self-destruction. But what women go after with zeal and verve are the losers of our society…..uneducated, drug-using, criminal scum. Are these men powerful? Absolutely not. That’s why they stab you in the back but wouldn’t dare face you man to man. It’s also why they are complete failures in life…..they are weak beyond belief. But, other than being weak these bozos have one thing in common…..they are all evil. And it is that evil that attracts women.

Evil, not power, is the defining attribute of women’s attraction toward deviant men.

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Bonecrcker #6 – Women Choosing Extinction
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Bonecrcker #10 – Women Choosing Scum

Bonecrcker #25 – On Asshole “Game”
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Bonecrcker #84 – Women Going for Evil Losers

Bonecrcker #118 – Women Who Marry Scumbags

Bonecrcker #93 - She's Lying

The problem here is that women lie about anything and everything….often for no reason at all. Most men, not being liars themselves, never consider that other people, particularly their women friends and loved ones, are liars. It takes getting burned, often several times, before a man wakes up to rule number one when dealing with women……don’t listen to anything they say, no matter how minor, because it’s a lie. That’s not enough though. It takes major education and rehabilitation before men even learn about rule number two (let alone, live it)…..you are the most important person in any relationship with women.

1) Who care what they say. It’s either a lie or a manipulation and usually both. So don’t listen to it.

2) I am the only important person in my relationships (no matter the type) with women.

It’s important to understand the ”woman who is the expception” phenomena. You WILL run into women (probably many women) who seem to not be this way. You will be tempted to break rules 1 and 2. DON’T DO IT! Women are sociopaths….perfect actors. A great many of them are into the whole, “I’m different” thing. They absolutely are NOT. They are the most dangerous because you will think you’ve found the real thing, completely arrange your life, mind and soul around them and then get destroyed. For months or years, you will be so overwhelmingly overjoyed that (unlike all those other losers) you actually have love in your life from a woman who truly cares about you. This is the worst and most insidious of lies and once it is revealed, well, there’s nothing left. Falling for the “woman who is the exception”, is a good way to end up contemplating eating a gun. Don’t do that either. It is possible to have good relationships with women but only if you force it to be on your terms and understand that they are time limited. You enjoy them for as long as they last. Understand that they will be over, probably sooner, rather than later (so you want to leave at the first sign of bad behavior) and you have to constantly engage in behaviors that bring new women into your life.

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Bonecrcker #113 – Everything Out of a Woman’s Mouth is a Lie

Pook #6 – Lesson Three: Judge By Actions, Not By Words

Social Strategy: Why Men Shouldn't Argue with Women