...the attitude of giving stuff to women is what opens the door to unreasonable behavior and expectations in the first place. It’s a form of brain washing. First, it’s expected that you give the woman a gift (or they’ll leave). Next, it has to be a good (defined by them based on the whim de jour) gift. Lastly, the standard for a “good” gift is made unreasonable. Not only is the standard of “good” gift set by her but she won’t tell you what it is and will judge you negatively if you get it wrong, or even ask her about it.
This is best handled by saying, well, what makes you think you are entitled to a gift AT ALL? I will decide if, and under what circumstances you get a gift and that gift’s nature. And, I could care less if you judge me negatively for it (very important). If you choose to leave over that, I WILL LET YOU GO (even more important).
Wrong attitude on men’s part opens the door wide to unreasonable behavior, judgement and expectations on women’s part.
If it was me, and the woman hinted that my gift sucked, I wouldn’t be trying to get better gifts by asking her what a good gift is. I’d be considering dumping her. Why? Because, there is no fixable problem here. The relationship is taking an inexorable path down the shitter BY HER CHOICE. Not mine. She has become presumptuous and greedy, not that I have become a lame gift giver.
You see, the big lie here is that the problem is what the man is doing or even the problem is something the man and the woman are doing together. If that was true, you simply fix the problem and live happily ever after. It just doesn’t work that way. No matter what you do, with her or by yourself, things will get worse and worse. The real problem is with her. She CHOOSES to be this way, so you have no power over her free will, other than to leave. Or better yet, say no to her, and do whatever the hell you were going to do anyway, until she chooses to leave.
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Bonecrker #21 - Who Pays?
Bonecreker #27 - Gifts
Bonecrker #55 - Dates
Marriage is Fraud (Click Pic)
The Masculine Principle
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Principles of Seduction
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Philalethes' Essays
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The Book of Pook
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Eye of the Mind
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The Wisdom of Zenpriest
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A Wrinkle in Time
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Procopius of Caesarea: The Secret History - ca. 550 A.D.
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The Lamentations of Matheolus (excerpts) - 1295 A.D.
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Man Superior to Woman -- by a Gentleman, 1739
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What's Wrong With The World -- G.K. Chesterton (excerpts)
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Sex and Character -- by Otto Weininger
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The Encyclopedia Marxofeminist
Feminist "Equality" Includes The Loss of Free Speech
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Odds and Ends
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Any Gal of Mine
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Not All Women Are Like That! (NAWALT)
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Myths, Legends & Religions
You are not god. Learn to observe without judging.
Don't Get Married
Repeal the Canadian Gun Registry
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Sexuality and the Gender War
"Self Made Man" - Sculpture by Bobbie Carlyle
Man carving himself out of stone, carving his character, carving his future.
The Demographic Trap
"Destroy the family, you destroy the country." -- V.I. Lenin
Back to the Bible
A Non-Bible Thumper Point of View
No Thanks - We'd Rather Be Canadian!
"Those who desire to give up freedom in order to gain security will not have, nor do they deserve, either one" ~Benjamin Franklin
Man-Made Global Warming is a Hoax being used to bring about Global Communism (Globalization)
"Every collectivist revolution rides in on a Trojan horse of 'emergency'. It was the tactic of Lenin, Hitler, and Mussolini. In the collectivist sweep over a dozen minor countries of Europe, it was the cry of men striving to get on horseback. And 'emergency' became the justification of the subsequent steps. This technique of creating emergency is the greatest achievement that demagoguery attains." -- Herbert Hoover
Just Doing My Part to Fight Global Warming!
The Marxism of Multi-Culturalism
"Tolerance is how far a mechanical part can deviate from the norm before it screws up the entire machine." -- Any Mechanic
The Grinch That Steals Children's Souls
"Give us the child for 8 years and it will be Bolshevik forever." -- V.I. Lenin
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The Liberal Party of Canada = Cultural Marxist Agenda
The "Progressive" Conservatives Weren't Much Better -- (Watching Harper's Conservatives Closely...)
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Marxism Links (For Researching)
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Philosophy Corner
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The Marxist Dialectic's Zig-Zag
Wishing to advance in a room full of people, I do not walk through the aisle and straight toward my goal. Nor do I move slowly through the crowd shaking hands with friends and acquaintences, discussing points of interest, gradually nearing the objective. The dialectical pathway is different. It consists of a resolute forward advance followed by an abrubt turn and retreat. Having retreated a distance there is another turn and advance. Through a series of forwardbackward steps the goal is approached. To advance thus is to advance dialectically. The Communist goal is fixed and changeless, but their direction of advance reverses itself from time to time. They approach their goal by going directly away from it a considerable portion of the time. Lenin wrote the textbook, One Step Forward, Two Steps Back. Chinese Communist schoolchildren are taught to do the dialectical march taking three steps forward and two steps back. If we judge where the Communists are going by the direction in which they are moving we will obviously be deceived -- Dr. Fred Schwarz, President of Christian Anti-Communism Crusade
Critical Theory
The Pussy Pass
All's Fair In Love and War
The Matriarchy Lives! (Click Picture)
"I am most anxious to enlist everyone who can speak or write to join in checking this mad, wicked folly of 'Women's Rights', with all its attendant horrors, on which her poor feeble sex is bent, forgetting every sense of womanly feelings and propriety. Feminists ought to get a good whipping. Were woman to 'unsex' themselves by claiming equality with men, they would become the most hateful, heathen and disgusting of beings, and would surely perish without male protection." -- Queen Victoria, 1870
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