Bonecrker #59 - Four Kinds of Women Which Are More Psycho than the Others

There are four classifications of women that are far more psycho than [the rest]. They are:

1. Woman with a criminal record (number one in the psycho classification)

2. Any woman who uses drugs of any type. Warning, this includes pot.

3. Any woman who works in any capacity in the sex for money industry……prostitute, phone sex, porno, stripper, nude pictures, hooters girl, shot girl, any job selling alcohol where looks are a factor (ie almost any job serving alcohol, except as a bartender/waitress in the most classy establishments).

4. Any woman that has been in a lesbian relationship. By that, I don’t necessarily include bi/curious girls (lol, all women are bi/curious, despite what they may say). No, I mean any woman that has had a woman as sole-sexual partner on a regular basis.

There are also a dozen types of psychos that aren’t as bad as the women you mention, but, since I consider ALL of these women to be in the, do not touch under any circumstances, OR ELSE, classification, you could argue that they are all equally bad.

For example:

Women that have ever dated a deviant male or female…..drug dealer, criminal etc

Married women

Women with accidental pregnancies

Has ever accused a man of rape or sexual harassment

Violent temper

Trains in weapons for no good reason

Has relatives that are deviant….see above

Eating disorder or (God forbid), serious mental illness like schizophrenia, bipolar, borderline or other personality disorder, PTSD (rape) and basically, anything else more serious than depression or an anxiety disorder

More than $100,000 in debt. With specific exceptions for good debt. Good debt is any debt spent on an investment that returns more money than it costs to repay the payments on the debt…..businesses, rental property, paper assets (rare) etc. The wealthiest people in the world are millions of dollars in debt…..good debt.

More than $10,000 in debt from anything else besides owning a home, student loans, or investing in a business, real estate etc.

Ever expresses hate speech or other hateful behavior about men, or any other type…..for example racist remarks.

Has had more than one abortion or has had even one abortion and doesn’t express deep remorse for it, or treats the issue of abortion as a woman’s right issue rather than a rather unfortunate circumstance to prevents people lives from being ruined.

Is a witch or (God forbid) a Satanist.

The list goes on and on. Basically, there are two types of women in this world, acceptable and unacceptable. The unacceptable ones are easy to identify. Their behavior is bizarre, deviant, and extreme.

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Bonecrker #58 - Women Are Narcissistic and Self-Absorbed

What’s going on is women are totally narcissistic and self-absorbed. They also see the world in very distorted ways and are all the time mistaking where things are coming from.

For example, women do not ever want to hear anything about you (sad but true). Women always find this offensive and think the guy is narcissistic (a projection of what they actually are) even if his talking about himself is brief and in context to the situation. On the other hand, if you spend all your time asking leading questions about her and then fleshing out the details of her life, only pausing to add various compliments to her, she will think you are the most brilliant conversationalist in the world, even though you have basically said nothing. You can do this for hours and hours and she’ll never even think to ask anything about you. It’s downright bizarre and disturbing, once you’ve experienced it. But not as bizarre and disturbing as the effect it has on how they see you.

However, NEVER get in the habit of being a sounding board for women’s problems. This has various, extremely negative, effects on how she sees you. Not only does she become a whiney drain on your very life-force, she permanently puts you in the “no sex” category. Every time you see her, she’ll start telling you all her problems (even making up problems for purposes of drama). This also is so sick and bizarre that most men don’t really believe it until they experience it for themselves.

Talking about her is a tool. A tool to build rapport with her during your first few conversations. It needs to be replaced with something else, soon after that. It’s an example of mapping out the sickness that women have and using that information to work around it. However, like all tools, it is only good for certain specific situations. It will serve in many other related situations (you can always bang a nail with a wrench, but a hammer would be better) and is completely inappropriate for many more.

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"It was a fool who said that women are attached to their appearance. Anyone can see it is not their appearance they are attached to, but what their appearance brings them . . . attention, compliments, self-respect, friends, employment, sex, men, children . . . and the list goes on!

I once heard a woman say "I take a lot of care of my appearance, but I don't like to think of myself as shallow"!" -- Kevin Solway

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“‘Really, women’s desire is not relational, it’s narcissictic.’ — it’s dominated by the yearnings of ‘self-love,’ by the wish to be the object of erotic admiration and sexual need. Still, on the subject of narcissism, she talked about research indicating that, in comparison with men, women’s erotic fantasies center less on giving pleasure and more on getting it. ‘When it comes to desire,’ she added, ‘women may be far less relational than men.’” -- Sex and Relationships, Bonobo Sex, and ‘Lady Boners’: Is Women’s Desire Really That Confusing? – by Vanessa Richmond

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"The second fastest way to lose a woman is to treat her as a sex object. The first fastest is not to." -- Fred Reed

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"Women have no sympathy... And my experience of women is almost as large as Europe. And it is so intimate too. Women crave for being loved, not for loving. They scream at you for sympathy all day long, they are incapable of giving you any in return for they cannot remember your affairs long enough to do so." -- Florence Nightingale

Bonecrker #57 - Approaching Fat/Ugly Chicks is Harmful to Your Self-Esteem

Approaching fat/ugly chicks can be seriously harmful to your self-esteem. They are no more likely to find you attractive than a Pamela Anderson look-alike, and you will feel like total shit when they give you that, “get away from me you loser” look. But, it gets worse….MUCH worse. Fat/ugly chicks assume that if you are paying them any attention at all, you must be such a fucking loser that you can’t get anyone else…..and they treat you like it. Of course, this does zero to affect their sense of entitlement. In other words, you are a loser for wanting someone so heinous but they are still a princess, even though they ARE heinous. Plus, women who are fat/ugly are usually INSANE. They are into suffering big time and want to take you along for the ride. Unlike men who are usually fat because they eat too much, women are usually fat as a side effect of serious personality disorders that manifest as bulimia (binge eating, with or without vomiting), drug use and other fun stuff. Stay the hell away from women like this.

Women often bitterly complain that they are discriminated against if they are fat. But, it’s not true. A man who is fat has no chance with women (unless he is in the criminal scum class….but that’s another story). But, most fat/ugly chicks have a man. The people who discriminate against them are other women, not men. However, many men learn the hard way that they aren’t just fat, they are demented assholes. They give them a chance, often giving several fat women a chance, only to be treated like total dirt in the most fucked up situations. So, they learn to avoid them (at least I have, lol). It’s this issue that makes men avoid fat chicks, not their weight.

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Further Reading:

Bonecrker #39 – Fat Bottom Girls

Bonecrcker #157 – Eating Disorders

Bonecrcker #161 – The Old “Fat But Working On It” Line

Bonecrcker #171 – The Problem Isn’t the Body, It’s the Mind

Zenpriest #19 – How Women Keep Score

Bonecrker #56 - Giving Stuff to Women Leads to Unreasonable Behaviour

...the attitude of giving stuff to women is what opens the door to unreasonable behavior and expectations in the first place. It’s a form of brain washing. First, it’s expected that you give the woman a gift (or they’ll leave). Next, it has to be a good (defined by them based on the whim de jour) gift. Lastly, the standard for a “good” gift is made unreasonable. Not only is the standard of “good” gift set by her but she won’t tell you what it is and will judge you negatively if you get it wrong, or even ask her about it.

This is best handled by saying, well, what makes you think you are entitled to a gift AT ALL? I will decide if, and under what circumstances you get a gift and that gift’s nature. And, I could care less if you judge me negatively for it (very important). If you choose to leave over that, I WILL LET YOU GO (even more important).

Wrong attitude on men’s part opens the door wide to unreasonable behavior, judgement and expectations on women’s part.

If it was me, and the woman hinted that my gift sucked, I wouldn’t be trying to get better gifts by asking her what a good gift is. I’d be considering dumping her. Why? Because, there is no fixable problem here. The relationship is taking an inexorable path down the shitter BY HER CHOICE. Not mine. She has become presumptuous and greedy, not that I have become a lame gift giver.

You see, the big lie here is that the problem is what the man is doing or even the problem is something the man and the woman are doing together. If that was true, you simply fix the problem and live happily ever after. It just doesn’t work that way. No matter what you do, with her or by yourself, things will get worse and worse. The real problem is with her. She CHOOSES to be this way, so you have no power over her free will, other than to leave. Or better yet, say no to her, and do whatever the hell you were going to do anyway, until she chooses to leave.

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Further Reading:

Bonecrker #21 - Who Pays?

Bonecreker #27 - Gifts

Bonecrker #55 - Dates

Bonecrker #55 - Dates

Dates, where you expend time, money, effort, whatever, are only for someone you’ve been with awhile and are already fucking (as in plural). You call both these situations “dates” but they aren’t even close to being the same thing. The first case, you are setting up a situation for one or more of three things. You are being evaluated. Right away, this sends the exact wrong message, that you need to be good enough, somehow to be with a particular woman (to say that is a lie, is a dramatic understatement on many different levels). Second, it opens the door wide for exploitation. Who seeks out situations where they get to exploit people? Women like this. In other words, if she is seeking to get set up on dates, she is probably looking for someone to exploit and that means she has a whole bunch of other negative traits (like the ones yous saw, hehe). The last thing she is looking for is the hook up. Totally neurotic, restrictive, arrogant and contemptuous, 95% of the time, she “binges” the other 5% of the time. She looks to have sex with anybody (don’t be surprised if you find out she went out after your date, picked up some drunk at a bar and had sex in his car, without even finding out his name) with no intimacy and often under fucked up circumstances. That’s how she ended up with her charming tattoo and probably other fun stuff (like herpes). If you went out with her a dozen times, she would care about you no more than navel lint.

The second type of “date” is totally different. Doing it only with someone you are intimate with, it has the goal of doing something fun, to become even more intimate. Afterward, you are probably going home to have sex and be together.

Just say no to the first type of “date”. Someone want to hook you up on a blind date? Say no. Tell them to have that person come along a few times when you are hanging out with that mutual friend, preferably for a relaxing evening at home.

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Bonecrker #54 - Women Should Cultivate Anything That Typically is a Virtue...

Women should cultivate anything that is typically a virtue……honesty, commitment, kindness, nurturing behavior, focus, reliability. Although the list goes on and on, ALL of the things on that list go together. Nobody (and I mean NOBODY) cares that you have a high paying job or lots of “interests” or if you are smart, sophisticated, high maintenance, whatever. What they care about is if you are a good person. If they add you to their life (and that is what you are asking them to do), will you enhance their life or be a detriment. Sadly, almost all women are a detriment, and not in a minor way. Most men, who get married, can expect their life to turn to shit, because of direct behaviours from their women. No man wants that, and any man who even thinks he might someday want to be married, and have a family, is desperately looking for the woman who isn’t like that. If you are that RARE woman (I have certainly never met one), you will have your choice of men, and be given preference above all others (except by the losers of our society…..drug users, criminals, frat boys, most lawyers etc……losers). Who should you choose? The same type of man who cultivates virtues. Although VERY few women are like this, large numbers of men are like this. They are all around you.

I’d like to point out that every woman SAYS they are like this, but when you look at their behavior, it just doesn’t match up. Nobody cares what you say about how you are. They are judging you on your behavior. Only after a man sees by your behavior, that you are just another woman of low worth, does he start reducing you to only what your body is. If he had no sex drive, he would probably ignore you entirely. If you don’t like that, then you must have something more to offer. That something must be of yourself…..not your role, not your status, not your occupation, and certainly not your tits, but….who….you…are…..must be noble and worthy. This is an objective criterion, not a subjective one. It can be learned and implemented and the rewards for doing so are very great.

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Bonecrcker #46 – Feminism Turns Women Into Mere Sex Objects (advice to women)

Bonecrcker #151 – The Woman Who Is The Exception Phenomena (advice to women)

Bonecrcker #154 – Women Are Bitches To Nice Girls (advice to women)

Bonecrcker #167 – Advice For Women On Inviting Guys To Approach You (advice to women)

Bonecrcker #174 – The Measure Of A Person’s Worth Is Their Actions (advice to women)

Bonecrcker #176 – Women Making More Money Than Their Husbands (advice to women)

Bonecrcker #177 – Responsibility And Power Go Hand In Hand (advice to women)

Bonecrker #53 - Online Dating is a Scam

How much more evidence do you need to gather before you realize that the women on dating services are doing something other than looking for a man. What sort of behavior would you expect from women who were using the service to actually find a man? They would have pictures taken specifically to show them in the best possible light (cheap and easy to do in most places). They would write a well thought out, articulate profile, mind their P’s and Q’s, and try to both present themselves and what they want in such a way that they find someone who is a good match. They would, ummmm, actually look at men’s profiles and email men they were interested in. And they would spend a significant amount of time chatting via IM, leaving it open only during times they have specifically put aside for this purpose. They would be polite, and interested in getting to know people to see if they were a good match and if it would be fruitful to meet with them in person.

Now, do women on the dating service do ANY of those things? Absolutely not. They do the opposite…..crappy pic of them and their ex with his head rubbed/cut out (sometimes, obviously drunk), profile looks like it was written by a 3rd grader who barely speaks English, with red flags all over the place, tons of rude, bitter, negative statements, sometimes openly stating they hate men or intend to exploit you, reveal little to nothing about what they are like as a person (sometimes because there is nothing there or something is there that nobody wants), rarely looks at men’s profiles and NEVER responds to them no matter how good looking, alpha-male, rich, great personality, sexy, whatever, the man is, actively rude or time wasting on IM, pretends to bond with you and then, later, pretends has no idea who you are or what you agreed to do together earlier.

What this means, quite simply, is they aren’t looking for a man (so, it’s a waste of time to use this method to find a woman). At best, they are looking to have their egos stroked by saying no to all the men who seem to be interested in them (actually, these men have no interest in them and are just trolling the entire female database, for the one chick about to binge) and then will have an anonymous sexual encounter with some random loser, when they have been too long without love, sex or intimacy (ie they binge). At worst, these psychos are looking to actively harm someone, any way they can, as long as it is safe for them.

What’s going on with the online dating thing is women are wasting time and men are emailing hundreds of women, trolling for anonymous encounters with sluts.

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Further Reading:

Bonecrker #34 – Online Dating – Not!

Bonecrcker #89 - Identifying Women Who Are Wasting Your Time

Bonecrcker #90 – There Is No Point In Approaching Any Woman Who Doesn’t Look At You And Go “Yum”

Bonecrcker #124 – Women on Online Personals Are Just Wasting Your Time

Bonecrker #52 - Man Hating Dykes

There is a HEAVY undertone of lesbianism involved in the anti-men hate groups. Wherever you see the real fanatics that stray from the supposed issue at hand to spit vitriol at men, you find the lesbians behind it, or at least in the middle of it. When I say that gay people have an agenda and are trying to undermine our society, this is part of what I mean. These are some of the specific behaviours they are doing. They try to hide their man-hating, family-hating, society-hating agenda, but like all psychotics, they can’t quite keep a lid on it.

Don’t misunderstand me. There is nothing wrong with munching a little rug. Almost all girls have this as a normal part of their [hetero] sexuality. But lesbianism isn’t about having sex with women…..it’s about hating men, and it’s about hating a system that values morality and rewards virtue and merit. In my opinion, that is a pretty strong case for treating self-described “lesbians” as pariahs. Certainly, no one should cooperate with them on anything, and should always be deeply suspicious whenever they bring up an issue that supposedly addresses a wrong-doing (for example…..gay marriage). Abortions, rape, equal rights, have all been fertile grounds for this manipulative crap. You can always tell because they are highly resistant to any desire to critically examine the situation to find out if there is a problem and, if so, what is the exact nature of that problem. Mysteriously, they are never around when the work of fixing a real problem that has been identified. But, they never lack for time, energy or resources to spit hate at men, family, or just our way of life in general.

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Further Reading:

Bonecrker #42 - Lesbians and Gay Men

Bonecrker #60 – A Man Must Strive to Prevent Women from Having the Smallest Shred of Power Over Him

Bonecrcker #135 – With Gay Marriage Legal, Gays Might Stop Getting Into Marriages That Are a Lie

Bonecrcker #136 – Not All That Opposed To Gay Marriage

A New Kind of Bigotry

Bonecrker #51 - Don't Argue With Women

It is a mistake to argue with women. Arguments are all about words and women in our culture don’t match up words with actions and freely say things that don’t make sense and then deny that they don’t make sense. In short, they aren’t honest when trying to solve problems using discussion, negotiation and compromise. The reason they aren’t honest is because they are trying to be abusive and exploitative rather than having relationships based on mutual love and respect.

Instead, deal with women in the realm of behavior. Point to a behavior you don’t like and tell her to stop, or point out a missing behavior of hers and tell her to do it. Never discuss why you don’t like it or why you want her to do something. Get used to saying the word NO….a lot. And NEVER discuss things in terms of right and wrong (it’s enough that YOU want it). Always have a consequence lined up if she refuses, and ALWAYS come through with that consequence. Flakey girls get dumped, if you get my drift. This only works if you have her replacement waiting in the wings to take her place (your needs, not people’s expectations, are what’s important). Understand that, in our culture, ALL girls are flakey and need to be dumped sooner or later, so don’t hesitate to do so, or let them get away with anything. As this behavior among men becomes common (and it is), women’s flakiness will drop off dramatically.

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Further Reading:

Bonecrcker #93 – She’s Lying

Bonecrcker #95 - No, no, no, no, No, NO!

Bonecrcker #97 – The #1 Mistake Most Men Make With Women Is… Talking To Them

Bonecrcker #110 – The Problem With Discussing Things With Women

Bonecrcker #113 – Everything Out of a Woman’s Mouth is a Lie

Social Strategy: Why Men Shouldn't Argue with Women

Philalethes #3 – The Anti-Logic of Women

Philalethes #8 – When the Cow Rides the Bull, Priest Watch Your Skull

Philalethes #29 – They Can Do It Because They Really Believe It!

Zenpriest #27 – Ignoring Women

The Intimate Journal of Henri Amiel – Dec, 26, 1868

Bonecrker #50 - Escalating with Women

While it’s good to have a take it or leave it attitude, it’s also important to have the attitude of continuously testing the waters and trying to advance things. If you don’t, when she expects you to, she will lose interest/get pissed and wander off. The pattern goes something like this. If you look at a woman and she looks back, she is inviting you to be attracted and initiate things with her…..so smile. If she is receptive and smiles back, she is inviting you to come talk to her. If you talk to her and she seems to enjoy it, she is inviting you to get to know her, so get her phone number. If you talk to her on the phone and you “click”, she is receptive to being asked out on a date. If you are out on a date and she touches you, she is inviting you to touch her, so do so in an appropriate way. Later, try to hold hands with her. If she holds hands with you, she is inviting more intimate contact, so touch her hair. If she lets you touch her hair, it’s OK to try and kiss her. If she kisses you, then it’s OK to cuddle with her. If she cuddles with you, it’s OK to touch her more intimately. If that goes well, touch her sexually….and escalate from there. The point is to not skip any steps and always be testing out the next level of intimacy. This works best if you take your time, build anticipation and get her expecting/desiring the level of intimacy you already have. You do that by testing a little bit and then pulling back, pushing ahead a little bit more and then pulling back. She is in control about letting you advance but after she makes that decision, you are in control about when, and how much. That’s the behavior that separates a friend from a lover.

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Bonecrker #49 - Shit Tests vs. Psychotic Raving Lunatic Tests

All women test, that’s a fact of life. They want to know the steel content of your balls. To pass the test, your response needs to be some version of, I’m going to do whatever I choose to do, whether you like it or not, and for no better reason than I want to…..and if you don’t like it, you can just leave because, quite frankly, there are other women waiting for me to get rid of you so they can have a turn.

But…….there are relatively normal, reasonable tests…..and psychotic, raving lunatic tests. If you ever get a psychotic, raving lunatic test, don’t address it…..just dump her with no further explanation. Simply walk away from her and never speak to her again. Also, if you pass normal tests, all testing should cease for awhile. If, instead, she escalates the testing, the more she escalates, the more you should consider dumping her.

Examples of lunatic tests:

She accuses you of cheating

She steals from you

You go to the bathroom at a bar, restaurant etc. and you come back to find her flirting with another guy, she hits on another guy while you are around or tries to provoke a situation between you and another guy

She makes a scene out in public

Calls the cops on you for any reason whatsoever

Well, you get the picture.

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Related:

Philalethes #3 – The Anti-Logic of Women

Bonecrker #48 - Sexes Approaching Eachother

For all the myths that women are more intuitive, more social, more emotionally intelligent, aware of feelings etc., it is all basically a lie.

The bottom line is this: Men don't actually make the first move... women do.

They signal openness. Or rather, they are supposed to. Then an interested man will signal his interest to approach, usually by looking her in the eyes and smiling. A normal man won't apporach unless invited. If a man approaches without being invited it either means he is a psycho or he is one of the few men that have learned that women just don't get it, and he is compensating by testing the waters more aggressively. Yes, a lot of men don't know the steps to meeting a woman and, as a result, are socially awkward and have trouble meeting women (even when she is highly interested). This lack of skill leads to lack of confidence which then becomes a vicious circle.

Part of the problem is women are just as clueless about doing their part in the meeting ritual.

But, the biggest part of the problem is most women are completely out of control of their own sexuality. What I mean by this is, rather than deciding beforehand what she wants and then figuring out how to go about getting it, she tends to instead shut down. 90% of the time, and she is completely uninterested in any partner. That's a big problem because (most) men hunt and women choose. If 90% of the time that choice is no to anyone, and she is unaware of what she is doing, the chances for success aren't very good. The other 10% of the time, she gets overwhelmed by her needs (hormonal and otherwise) which forces her to be open to men who aren't a good match... leading to the ironic perception that there are no good men (ie no men who are a good match for her) Even though she is surrounded by them. Add in that most women put themselves on sexual display with the way they dress but shut down all signals of interest and the stage is set for some pretty fucked up behaviours.

In short, neurotic behavior in both men and women, lack of knowledge and lack of skill are at the root of the problem. Add in the fact that the relationship is mostly and illusion from the woman's point of view (ie she can and will walk with no notice and no reason at all) and you have a highly unstable situation where nobody is getting their needs met.

To fight against this, people have to study the situation and bring what they are doing into conscious awareness, and focus their will on making changes.

For example, I discovered that even though most women won't signal interest, a man can provoke her by skipping a step. Simply looking any woman you meet directly in the eyes and seeing if she looks back, and then smiling if she does... this forces her to say yes or no with her body language. That's an aggressive thing to do (in non-neurotic cultures, women signal first, not men) but it is still in the realm of acceptable behavior. Men going, "hey, baby, hey baby," while you are trying to get to work, or worse, approaching when you make it clear they are not welcome, isn't acceptable. It means the guy is either a dumbass or a psycho. Unfortunately, alot of women are open to them during their 10%.

As a woman, it is extremely easy to get around this. First, choose who you want. Then, do what a man would do. Look him right in the eyes and smile. You might have to do it several times if he is a dumbass. He'll usually approach you unless he is taken.

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“Women chat happily, send sexually explicit signals and encourage the man’s attention, even if they have absolutely no interest in him. This gives a woman time to assess a man, say [Karl Grammer of the Ludwig Boltzmann Institute of Urban Ethology in Vienna, who studied 45 male-female pairs of strangers in their teens and early twenties]… Importantly, the women also seemed to control the encounter – what the women did had a direct effect on what the men did next. ‘You can predict male behaviour from female behaviour but not the other way around,’ says Grammer” – New Scientist Magazine (London), February 14, 2001

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Cary (1976) discovered that the woman, through eye contact, controlled the course of interaction with a male stranger, both in the laboratory and in singles' bars. Perper (1985) gave a detailed description of courtship, stressing an escalation-response process in which women play a key role in escalation or deescalation. The steps in this process are approach, turn, first touch, and steady development of body synchronization.

Although these reports are clearly valuable, most researchers addressed courtship very generally, and some failed to recognize the importance of the female role in the courtship process .What was needed was a more complete ethogram of women's nonverbal courtship signals. To compile such a catalog of flirting behavior exhibited by women involved in initial heterosexual interaction, more than 200 adults were observed (Moore, 1985) in field settings such as singles' bars, restaurants, and parties.

Research has shown, therefore, that the cultural myth that the man is always the sexual aggressor, pressing himself on a reluctant woman, is incorrect. -- Courtship Signaling and Adolescents: "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun"? Monica M. Moore, Ph.D.Department of behavioral and Social Sciences, Webster University

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Further Reading:

Zenpriest #40 - Girls Just Wanna Have Fun

Philalethes #29 - They Can Do It Because They Really Believe It!

Rats!

Bonecrker #47 - Living in La-La-Land

I think that the basic problem is that most women here are only interested in the fantasy of living life and not the reality of it. Only what is going on in their heads matters to them, not what is actually going on outside in the real world. Any time there is a conflict between the two, they treat what's in their head as true rather than what's outside. That's the very definition of a crazy person. A big problem with that is what goes on in your head is transitory and ephemeral. It disappears as soon as you daydream about something else.

However, the behavior women do based on this have very real and permanent consequences.

For example, if you have some fantasy about being in love with a guy, marry him and then have kids, but 10 years later you lose interest in that fantasy, the consequences of that are rather harsh. And women never seem to realize what is at the root of their problems. They tend to blame the problems on men. Blah, blah, blah... I don't love you anymore because you are boring, unromantic and a whole bunch of other things that are thinly veiled bullshit with no basis in reality. The truth is they were never in love in the first place. Love has to do with what you do outside in the real world... your behavior and what you build with it. It has nothing to do with what is going on in your head, even though what is going on in your head may be fun and exciting.

I think a pretty basic thing every man needs to pay attention to when in any relationship is how much does the woman's behavior match up with what she is saying. She says "I love you", but does she act in a loving manner? Does she do things that are incompatible with a person who loves you? Most importantly, does she work toward long term goals based on nurturing a love relationship that is permanent, or is she just along for the ride. Very few women act in any way except just enjoying the moment. What that means is, your behavior and the decisions you make with regard to her should be based on that. I think it is inappropriate to be monogamous with someone who is just having fun times with you. Certainly it is not a good idea live with them, marry them and God forbid, have children with them. Those things absolutely require certain continuous and extended behaviours that the woman (and men and women are absolutely different in this regard) is just not interested in.

To put it another way: American men make the best husbands on the planet. But, American women make the worst wives.

Everyone except Americans seems to know it, too.

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Further Reading:

Bonecrker #74 – All Married Women Are Available

Bonecrcker #181 - Women Don’t Hate Men, But They Don’t Love Them Either

Bonecrcker #182 – Women Want Strong Emotions But Don’t Care If Those Emotions Are Negative

Pook #40 - Do Girls Want Sovereignty?

Empty Vessels and Relative Truth

Bonecrker #46 - Feminism Turns Women Into Mere Sex Objects

Feminism has created a situation where women are usually useless for anything except sexual recreation (many are useless for that too). That is the point of feminism... to marginalize women by turning them into whores (has there ever been a society where a whore was anywhere but at the bottom?) That's why looks are such a big deal these days. Feminists sold this sick situation by telling women that they were doing the opposite. Their behaviours just don't match the goals they give lip service to. It's a huge scam.

I've said it before and I'll say it again. The woman who works very hard at being worth more than the use of her body as a fuck toy, has such an incredible advantage over all other woman that she can basically pick and choose whomever and whatever she wants. A woman of quality is so rare that men (once they figure it out) will run over themselves trying to get to her. Of course, there are a few dipshits who just want T & A. But, you don't want them.

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Bonecrcker #54 – Women Should Cultivate Anything That Typically Is A Virtue (advice to women)

Bonecrcker #151 – The Woman Who Is The Exception Phenomenon (advice to women)

Bonecrcker #154 – Women Are Bitches To Nice Girls (advice to women)

Bonecrcker #167 – Advice For Women on Inviting Men To Approach You (advice to women)

Bonecrcker #174 – The Measure of a Person’s Worth Is Their Actions (advice to women)

Bonecrcker #176 – Women Making More Money Than Their Husbands (advice to women)

Bonecrcker #177 – Responsibility and Power Go Hand In Hand (advice to women)

Bonecrker #45 - Niceguys

One of the things I don't like about the "niceguy" label is the assumption that niceguys are nice because they are afraid to be otherwise or it is part of approval seeking behavior or that the world revolves around ruthless, brutal behavior of which niceguys are ignorant and victims of.

This just isn't true.

What is true is that almost anything of any worth has been created by the good people of the world, despite negative influences. Bad people create jack shit. And that goodness flows from strength. It is the assholes of the world who are not doing what they are supposed to be doing, making life shitty for everyone. I'm not a niceguy because I was born that way. Nor am I a niceguy because of socialization. I'm a niceguy because I specifically choose to be so. It's part of my method of living a good, decent and satisfying life, because I have noticed that people who are not "nice" simply aren't able to get that for themselves.

Being an asshole is a weakness that makes a person's life sad and pathetic... all the while desperately trying to fool themselves and others that it isn't so.

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Bonecrcker #64 – On Players

Bonecrker #44 - Women Have Contradictory Love

Women have been tricked into seeking after what is not in their own best interest in a highly neurotic fashion. They've been tricked by the small fraction of women who are convinced this is actually good to do because they are psychotic. If you were to ask most women, hey, how's your love life, almost all of them would say it’s horrible (well, no shit, look who you are chasing after). Later in life, after those poor decisions have been left to fester, the question changes to hey, how is your life in general... with the same answer. Women's lives suck because they have chosen to believe those lies. Until they seek after the truth, there is no hope for a better outcome for them. They must wake up from their trance and see that what is normal, sexy and attractive in men is that a man is strong and of high quality.... physically, mentally, emotionally, financially and most of all, spiritually. Choosing a man like that, and being committed to him, is the only path to a happy life for a woman.

Men cannot do that for women. Yes, we can point it out, but only they can experience the truth for themselves. Quite frankly, it is not my responsibility. If someone tells you shit tastes good, and you nod your head and agree and spoon it into your mouth, well, there is nothing I can do for you. And it will tend to piss me off if I prepare a sumptuous, nutritious 3 course feast for you in the hopes you will stop, but you spit at my feet and yell at me. When you start clutching your stomach and throwing up, why should I take care of you? For that matter, don't expect a big sloppy kiss any time soon.

But, what we can (and should) do is make sure our needs are met, protect ourselves from an inappropriate shunting of responsibility from them to us, and most of all, stop enabling their foolishness. These three things are highly related. When you do one, you tend to do them all.

This is one of the things that really pisses me off about women. None of the things that make me a desirable man (money, looks, body, personality etc.) that I work on, mean a damn thing to them. In fact, many of these things are a detriment, as they chase after omega male (scumbag) traits. But, social proofing.... that matters. I got news for them. Social proofing pretty much means I can't or simply won't give them what they want. Social proofing means one of three things. I'm not going to commit under typical circumstances (me). I'm taken, so you have no chance with me (typical married guy). Or, worst of all, I'm taken and I'm the type of lying, cheating, scum who will do it with someone behind my wife's back (i.e. poor character). Social proofing has negative survival value for women. It's neurotic and unnatural.

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Philalethes #27 – In the Battle of the Sexes, If She Wins, She Loses

Bonecrker #43 - Women Behave Like Beavis and Butthead

There was an old "Beavis & Butthead" episode where the boys went down to the local dog pound to get a dog.

Naturally, they wanted one who was studly. So they walked down the row of cages looking for a suitable dog. If the dog looked friendly, Butthead would say "Wuss!" with great contempt and move on to the next cage. When he spotted one who looked vicious enough, he'd say "Beavis? The Test!" and then he'd insert Beavis' arm into the cage.

If the dog licked Beavis' arm, Butthead would say, "That answer was incorrect!" and move on to the next cage.

Finally, one dog sank his teeth into Beavis … and that was the one they took home.

Something similar happens with dating.

The reason I like this joke so much is because it is such a strong, multi-faceted allegory of what is going on with American women.

1). The first is the understanding that American women have allowed themselves to become more than a little bit like Beavis and Butthead. Vicious yet weak, depraved, exploitative and most of all... stupid. They are dangerous deviants that most people fail to take seriously.

2). So, of course, they are going to choose a pet that matches their character. Note that they are so self-involved and fucked up that they are unable to distinguish something they want from something that is good. They don't know that what they want is nuts, but worse, they treat what they don't want, even though it is obviously better (to a normal person), as if it had no value.

3). They go to an artificial situation (a pound) where the state has rounded up those who have been cast-away (divorce) and forcibly limited their choices. Without this interference, none of the dogs would even consider Beavis and Butthead. They do it because they are forced too. Also, since the issues of supply and demand have been artificially altered, the low quality element (Beavis and Butthead) gets to pick and choose among the high quality element. The situation is so lopsided that they feel the need to "test", even though every dog in the pound is actually acceptable.

4). Because Beavis and Butthead are fucked up, their test is fucked up. It displays sadism and exploitation (Butthead) and masochism (Beavis).

5). The only thing that matters about the dog is the fact that it will hurt them. Self-destructive people, situations and impulses are "cool."

So, we have a situation where a man is forced to seek after Beavis and Butthead rather than be imprisoned and alone, with all other choices kept away from him with the judicious use of force. In order to do that, he must be willing to bite them. What the joke doesn't mention is the dog goes right back to the pound after Beavis and Butthead lose interest and wander off to the next fucked up situation.

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Bonecrker #42 - Lesbians & Gay Men

There is no such thing as lesbianism. Women on women sex is a normal part of heterosexual sex. That's why women who hate men are a relatively recent phenomenon and why they look and act deviant. If lesbianism was real, you would see two things.... no history of sex with men, and normal women/women relationships where the people involved are just like everyone else in all ways. They wouldn't hate men, either. They'd be indifferent. You see the exact opposite in the lesbian community... long history of sex with men, abnormal/no relationships, intense hatred of men, and most of all, bizarre, stereotypical behavior that you can use to identify them. This last wouldn't be that big of a deal if it wasn't bizarre. For example, many "lesbians" like sports. That's a normal type of thing to be associated with a group of people. But, many more "lesbians" practice witchcraft (and live an accompanying delusional lifestyle). That's a decidedly abnormal thing to be associated with a group. It let's you know they aren't legitimate, as does the entire pattern with them, even the fact that there is a pattern.

There is a similar thing going on with gay men. To put it another way, if being a gay man was a normal variant of sexuality, gay men would act like men, instead of like gays. I actually look at this as a continuum. Small subsets of gay men are legitimately gay, while the rest are just freaks. The real gay men act like men, not demented perverts. Why do I say this? Because unlike with lesbians, there is a looooong history of a small part of the male population, in all cultures, who form relationships (as opposed to 500 sex partners a year) with men. Depending on the demands of the culture, they may or may not breed, but the main relationship is with a man. They acted in all ways like men do and there was rarely any stigma.

The whole thing is just silly and very much their own business.... until they try to push it off on the rest of us. A line has to be drawn at that. Don't interfere with gay people's lives. But don't allow them to interfere with our life either.

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Bonecrker #52 - Man-Hating Dykes

Bonecrker #60 – A Man Must Strive to Prevent Women from Having the Smallest Shred of Power Over Him

Bonecrcker #135 – With Gay Marriage Legal, Gays Might Stop Getting Into Marriages That Are a Lie

Bonecrcker #136 – Not All That Opposed To Gay Marriage

A New Kind of Bigotry

Bonecrker #41 - Finding The Small Pool of Interested Women

What's going on (and what I think may be one of the differences in how women behave in other countries) is women totally suppress their body language and behavioural cues that let a man know they are interested in them. A man has to approach them before they will let on that they are attracted. Most men are not sophisticated enough to do this only a tiny bit, and not aware enough to consciously look for the behavioural cue that says this woman wants me to approach (it's actually unnatural to be that attuned, but it is what's needed).

The result? Most men don't approach women, causing both men and women to go without. They do this because every time (it seems) they approach a woman at random, it gets a negative result. However, it's actually not every time, it's just most times because they can’t separate the small group of women who want them from the large group of women who don’t. A few men are persistent. They approach a lot of women, and surge ahead with any one woman until she forces him to stop in some way. This is very frightening for women because they are extremely weak in all ways compared to a man. Her ability to make him stop is based almost solely on his consent or another man coming to her aid.

Also, there is a big problem in that objective worth doesn't mean anything anymore. A large, muscular, svelte, handsome, intelligent man with tons of money naturally assumes most women will be attracted to him. He approaches a woman he wants and is shut down. He naturally assumes this is a test of the steel content of his balls and turns it up a notch... causing a bad situation. He can't believe the small pool of women he actually has to choose from and the randomness of it all. I mean, if Pamela Anderson rolled up on you while you were working the register at Burger King and started going oooooohhhh, your soooo hot, let's go out somewhere tonight, would you be interested or would you assume she was a serial killer and go running for the manager. Too many girls do the latter, in this situation. Something is wrong with them.

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Bonecrcker #122 – The Advantage The Big City Has Over The Small Town

Bonecrker #40 - Relationship Phases

It's important to understand how a woman undermines the ability of a man to walk away from a bad situation, in order to prevent falling into a bad situation by degrees.

1). The first thing she will want to do is spend more and more time with you. This is the most innocuous and insidious of her tools, because it is quite a reasonable thing for two people to do when they enjoy eachother’s company. Often, she will make the sex incredible (the best sex you will ever have with her) to promote you wanting to see her more and more. This is the best place for a man to resist, with the most rewards, but also the most unstable. You must put limits on her by being "busy". Although you shouldn't tell her unless directly questioned, ”busy” includes seeing other women. If you have a number of pearls on a string, it is perfectly OK to say upfront that "busy" means you are unavailable with another girl unless she is into threesomes. Women will work the hardest here and enjoy your company the most, but will wander off with a guy who seems like he might marry her.

2). After she is seeing you often and regularly, she will want to be exclusive. This isn't that bad for a man but can cause problems because the skills you use to get other women become rusty (that's part of the point). At this stage, women will do tons of things to try and make you dependent on her. The sex is still good but the focus shifts on her trying to make you emotionally dependant on her. If you let things slip to this point, you basically have a limited time before she dumps you if you won't "commit". Understand that she is 100% seeing other guys behind your back though, if you are formally her boyfriend or not. "Commitment" is always a one way street, 100% of the time. The only thing that will force her to actually be exclusive with you is if she can't get anyone else (you should never be with a girl like that because she will secretly despise you for it).

When She Asks You To Be Exclusive... Play This Song
(It also works to just say, "I don't think anyone should be exclusive for the first six months." -- But the above song is hilarious!) -- R.F.

3). After you two are an item comes the obnoxious and constant attempts to manufacture a ”living together” type of situation. She will constantly leave stuff over at your place and change things around to suit her taste. She will bring it up again and again and is likely to manufacture a situation where she becomes homeless and needs to move in with you. Expect ultimatums. Expect fights. Expect downright obsessive behavior, especially if you are "cheating" on her. The good news is she will be much less likely to fuck other guys if she is living with you (if she does, it means she is either insane or about to dump you). The bad news is it will be incredibly difficult to get rid of her and she will literally rip your life up by the roots once she gets tired of waiting for marriage and leaves. This is the absolute last stand for a guy. If you screw up here, you will have a tough time of it.

4). When you live together, depending on the woman and how old you two are, comes the constant nagging for an engagement ring. It begins with attempted brain washing and dissolves into fighting if you resist. If you ever flat out tell her you won't marry her, ever, for any reason, she will burn your life and leave. However, she can and will cheat on you without a second thought. "Commitment" is always a one way street. If you catch her, she will beg for forgiveness and try to bend the situation into a marriage proposal, or burn your life and leave. The older you two are, the shorter this time period. If you meet a girl in college (cough) it can last a rollercoaster ride, a decade long. If you meet her when you are 30, expect demands for marriage within 6 months. If she is 35, the demands will be angry and psychotic. However, she can and usually will, leave without a second thought. It will be as if you two were never together. This last is probably the most important reason to never get married. It's a scam. Your lover never bothered to develop deep feelings for you even though she has done everything in her power to make you have them for her. You must be very, very careful here because most girls will attempt to get pregnant to try and force you into marrying them. If you say no, they will either get an abortion or seek child support from you. Note that a significant portion of the time (perhaps as high as 30%, by some estimates) the child isn't yours. This is a purposeful response to careful birth control efforts on your part. Always make sure you know if she leaves and has a bun in the oven. Always get a DNA test. Be knowledgeable of wacko laws regarding this, especially if you live in a granola state (managed by nuts, fruits and flakes) like New York or California.

5). After the engagement immediately comes the specific dates and wedding plans, etc. Things are good but you have this nagging feeling that she actually hates your guts and plans to crucify you the second you get back from the honeymoon. Trust your instincts. If you push the wedding date back too much, she will likely fuck someone else and dump you... unless you have tons of cash that is. Then she will fuck someone else and you will never ever know. You can still leave her at the altar, but she will try to make you pay for it.

6). After marriage, the woman starts to attempt to reduce your status to that of marital slave. This is where the hardcore abuse starts with serious attempts to make you absolutely dependent on her. The moment you slipped the ring on her finger, she started planning the divorce. The wedding is the first attempt to bankrupt you, followed by constant demands for a bigger and better house you can't afford, new cars, expensive (yet worthless) crap of all makes and descriptions. To add icing on the cake, she will attempt to get pregnant with or without your consent, if you can afford a child or no. This is the stage women start to really let themselves go, but keep trying to cheat on you. Often they no longer care if you find out and being caught as it simply means she gets to fleece you for everything you have.

As you can see, there is a progression. This progression is fairly reliable among different women (stereotypical behavior is a sign of mental illness, BTW). The farther along in the progression you allow yourself to go, the harder it is to deal with and the more important it becomes that you actually deal with it.

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Bonecrker #39 - Fat Bottomed Girls

The big difference between a fat man and a fat woman is how they got that way. A fat guy gets that way either through ignorance or because he just doesn't give a shit. It tends to sneak up on him sometime in his late 30's. A lot of these guys are athletes of the football/wrestling type who just don't understand that as they let their muscle mass atrophy and as they age, their need for calories diminishes greatly. They keep eating the way they always have and balloon up. Then, there is the guy with the stressful, hectic job, who eats like shit constantly because he is too busy to cook. Many guys are fat because their wives have engaged in a calculated campaign to make them fat on purpose to severely restrict his options (this is incredibly common by the way).

Women, on the other hand, tend to be fat because they are neurotic and insane. Compulsion, shame, fear and hatred are the watchwords here. Most fat girls have a severe eating disorder, usually Bulimia. Traits very similar to Borderline Personality Disorder go hand in hand with that. They are big time into suffering, mostly theirs. However, they want to take you along for the ride. One thing is for certain, their opinion of you is very, very low. They think you are a loser because you can't date anyone better then them. They despise you because they feel they can't do any better than a loser like you. They will hate you because they think you secretly consider them disgusting, ugly and worthless. They will blame you for everything bad in their lives including their fat.

Fat chicks are miserable fucks but very good at appearing otherwise until you are enmeshed with them. Then the suffering starts. It's best to avoid them like the plague.



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Bonecrker #57 – Approaching Fat/Ugly Chicks is Harmful to Your Self Esteem
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Bonecrcker #157 – Eating Disorders
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Bonecrcker #161 – The Old “Fat But Working On It” Line

Bonecrcker #171 – The Problem Isn’t the Body, It’s the Mind
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Zenpriest #19 – How Women Keep Score

Bonecrker #38 - You Mean Nothing Until You Have Sex II

Until you put your penis in a woman, you mean nothing to her, no matter what. Even after that, many will still flake on you soon after.

No matter how hot and heavy and interested in you she seems, no matter how much she grinds against you on the dance floor or whispers dirty promises in your ear, no matter how much she said she wants you to call her, no matter what love letters she writes you professing her undying love, until you put your penis in her, from her point of view, it is as if none of that ever happened and you are a stranger being met for the first time. That first sexual contact is the very beginning of your relating to her. Before then, you don't exist.

Men assume they are building up a relationship and getting to know her with the eventual goal of making her close enough to you and trusting enough of you to have sex. This is completely erroneous. Women lie about this all the time which is the source of the misunderstanding. What women actually do is keep a bunch of potentials in the wings and have sex with one of them (or some complete stranger) quite at random when they want to initiate courtship with them. The less you are willing to wait around for her to decide to fuck you, the higher your status. Also, since it is mostly random, it is a much better strategy for men to look for the woman who wants him right now, rather than to invest time and energy on a woman. However, women are completely neurotic, so you have to disguise it as something innocuos (hey, want to come over to my place and watch this new DVD I got....hehehe). You both know the real reason she is coming over to your place but you both must pretend it just sort of happened. It is very important that, if a woman ever says no to you, during the course of you seducing her, that you wander off, preferably with someone else. Hey, want to come over to my place and see the new DVD I got? No? Well, look, I"m busy right now and I gotta go, but I'll call you later in the week. Don't call her. And if she doesn't call you, forget all about her.

Some women are psychotic and prone to random slutty stuff like going to a club, doing a bunch of ecstasy and then blowing some random guy in the bathroom. Look, but don't touch. There is nothing you can do about women being neurotic except work around it and prevent it from impacting your life. But psychotic women are a whole different story. They are rare (thankfully) but extremely toxic. Keep them out of your life at all costs.

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Bonecrcker #35 - You Mean Nothing to a Woman Until You Have Sex

Bonecrcker #127 – Timing is Important

Bonecrcker #128 – Women as “Friends”

Bonecrcker #130 – Never Allow a Woman to Call You a Friend Until You Have Had Sex at Least Once

Bonecrcker #156 – Friends With Benefits

Pook #5 – Lesson Two: Friendship – Abandon All Hope Ye Who Enter

Bonecrker #37 - Gifts

Gifts... are important if you are in a relationship. The rule here is, except for flowers, no gifts except on the big three... your anniversary, her birthday and Christmas. A man has to strike a fine line between getting a good gift and "paying for performance". They need to be moderately expensive (from $50 to a couple hundred or more depending on how rich you are) but can never be richly expensive (ie, no matter how rich you are, $500 is a bad idea). More than that though, they need to be symbolic. By that, they must represent care and thought put into them. You lose points for asking what she wants and gain points at playing the game: you hint at what you like and I'll take notes. When I was in relationships, and even occasionally now, I rely on certain categories of gifts that tend to be winners. Top of the list is jewerly. Not expensive jewerly, but cool jewelry (NO RINGS>>>>>NO EXCEPTIONS!!!!!!!!) This requires window shopping with her (Hey, look at the cool jewerly over there... maybe if you are a good girl, I'll get you that for your birthday next month, haha). Other winners are accessories (handbags, wallets, scarves) carefully chosen to match her style and look good. Clothes and shoes are a double edged sword. Never buy them unless you are absolutely positive of her size in that item. Make sure you choose items that match her style from the classy end. Lingerie is a big no-no and a waste of money. Another winner is artwork. A nice poster of a famous painting she admires in a nice frame is a sure winner (lots of extra points for knowing the art she admires). I tried this on a couple of girls and they go apeshit over it. I spend $100 and you would think I took them on a shopping spree through Tiffany's. Other winners... going cool places (massive extra points if the place has symbolic value to her but she rarely goes there, even more points if it is symbolic to the relationship... first date, first kiss, first sex, etc.)... pampering (usually an add on), cooking a special dinner, massage, away for the weekend someplace... and lastly, cards that are symbolic, somehow matching something about her, or something going on in your lives etc. Even better are homemade cards, if you got the skills (or even if you don't).

Gift giving is a big deal for women and never to be taken lightly if you are enmeshed with one. It's such a big deal that other women will grade your woman based on how good a gift you got her (ie how much you care about her). She'll lose status over a crappy gift. Women are nuts.

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Bonecrcker #21 – Who Pays?

Bonecrker #36 - Just Say No to Divorced Women

Most men who are divorced have been abandoned/victimized by a woman who flaked on them. They did their part, she did not. He did not want the divorce and she forced it on him, for no reason at all beyond her own insanity. The reverse is not true. Most women who are divorced, caused their divorce, chose divorce, forced divorce on their husband and and did all sorts of things to cause as much harm as possible, usually during a self-destructive death spiral. To say any sane man should stay the hell away from them is an understatement. There are exceptions, but they are relatively uncommon. Just as there are exceptions to divorced men. Some were abusive freaks, or ran off with their secretary or something equally inappropriate. But they are rare outside the lower socio-economic classes. Even the exceptions (and I have direct experience with this), a man will find she is the type of woman who seeks out bad men. You'll see a long history of weeding out the good men and only choosing the bad. Not that big of a problem. The problem happens when they try to get you to recreate the behavior and then dump you if you refuse. Ahhh yes, the joys of being called a loser because you refuse to beat someone.

The bottom line. Men should just say no to divorced women, especially with kids.  But women don't have to follow the same rule. They can find many great men who have been divorced and encounter few problems if any. The kids thing though is a hassle, and a major obstacle to any type of serious long-term relationship, even if they are very young when you first come on the scene.
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Bonecrcker #119 – Sleeping with Single Moms and Cohabitating

Bonecrcker #163 – A “Real Man” Wouldn’t Shun a Woman with Kids

Bonecrker #35 - You Mean NOTHING To A Woman Until You Have Sex

My views on "chicks" are based on observation and experience and they are very reliable. A man can expect a woman to act as if nothing is going on, to fade on him, flake on him, play rapo and other games, string him along, forget his name, and a million other things that say he just doesn't matter. All that goes away (except for psycho chicks) after the first time you have sex. Until that happens, a man should take every single thing about a woman with a grain of salt. Also, there is a huge ass gap between what a woman says and what a woman does. Waiting around trying to get "close" to a girl, developing friendships and dating etc., are all highly counterproductive for a man because of this. A woman decides within seconds if she wants a man or not, and then immediately tests him to see if he is important enough and in demand enough to not have to chase her. Almost anything he does to pursue her, please her, or try to get close to her makes his value drop. It sucks that women are so fucked up. But it is what is.

A lot of men don't know this. They assume because they have put significant time and effort into wooing a girl and she is responding, that he is important to her. Nothing could be further from the truth. You will rarely find a woman who will admit this. But their behavior shows this very clearly. [It] is the rule, not the exception.
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Bonecrker #38 – You Mean Nothing Until You Have Sex II

Bonecrcker #127 – Timing is Important

Bonecrcker #128 – Women as “Friends”

Bonecrcker #130 – Never Allow a Woman to Call You a Friend Until You Have Had Sex at Least Once

Bonecrcker #156 – Friends With Benefits

Pook #5 – Lesson Two: Friendship – Abandon All Hope Ye Who Enter

Bonecrker #34 - Online Dating - NOT!

Nothing will change the fact that all of the women on dating sites are what you might call "hard to place"... as in the adoption term for older children of questionable backgrounds with bad habits and other undesirable traits. The women on these sites are desperately trying to deny that they are either dateless losers or being passed around as a whore because nobody wants to keep them. It's all an act. They are trying to appear as if they aren't the type of girl who has to be on a dating site because they don't attract a man in their day-to-day lives. And they are desperately trying to deny the type of man who does approach her on the site.

Oddly enough, this doesn't hold true for the men. There is a much broader cross-section of all types of men. But they get one whiff of the freak-show and go, "No thanks!" Either that or they are 'slumming' for easy sex with women who can't be too picky.

Remember that whenever you are dealing with a chick from a dating site. Perhaps it would be best to not look for women there. They are of low quality. They know they are of low quality but are doing everything they can to deny it. And, they assume that since you are approaching them, you must be of low quality also (aaaaahhh, gotta love that social proofing ).

You'll have much better luck at the mall, if you know what you are looking for.
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Bonecrker #53 – Online Dating is a Scam
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Bonecrcker #89 - Identifying Women Who Are Wasting Your Time
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Bonecrcker #90 – There Is No Point In Approaching Any Woman Who Doesn’t Look At You And Go “Yum”

Bonecrcker #124 – Women on Online Personals Are Just Wasting Your Time
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Online Dating is Futile -- Roissy

Bonecrker #33 - Women's Lack of Standards

The problem with women is they really don't have standards. They say they have standards but they are mostly bullshit. The day after she randomly rejects you (claiming not measuring up to her standard), you will see her with some loser that meets nobody's standards.

Women and men both should have standards. For a woman, the man should be reasonably fit (ie not 100 pounds overweight), the same height as her, the same education and socio-economic standing, should not have bad habits (drugs, alcohol, smoking, criminal record etc.) should have a job (within reason, type and income are irrelevant), should have his own living space (ie not living in his parents basement or at a PADS shelter), but most important of all, he should be of good character. I have yet to meet a woman who actively seeks out men who meet these reasonable standards. However, I meet pleeeenty of women who have taken men from the trashcan of society. I would like to point out, that a woman without real standards (as opposed to simple lip service to the idea to cover for her fucked-upness) is of low quality.

Personally, I have very high standards with women. I'll fuck a woman who isn't up to snuff, but the amount of time I let her hang around is directly related to how well she meets my standards. Most of my standards are related to character. Most people's should be.
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Bonecrcker #5 – Women Choosing Losers

Bonecrker #32 - Women Are Not Able To Get Sex On Demand

Its Men's Fault Women Are So Bitchy

Let me ask a simple question that every man should ask himself when confronted with this sentiment. Is this true?

Is it true that a woman, from a very young age gets hit on by a loser every 5 minutes who ignores polite rejection and continues on until he gets slapped down? Is it true that every woman since the age of 13, every guy they meet has been trying to fuck her and that they get offered "dick" every single day?

Let me answer that. No, it's not true. Women would like you to believe it is true. But it's not. There is a grain of truth to this in that men highly value women in their reproductive prime. Also, highly deviant males sometimes act this way. But it is a far cry from the norm. Although there is a grain of truth to the sentiment, the statement is false. It's actually patently ridiculous.

It assumes that women can get sex any time they want, but don’t want it as much as men. Both of these are not true. You only have to look at the amount of time almost every woman spends desperately trying to attract a man to know it's not true. If it were true, women would just show up. They don't do that. They spend hours and hours finding the right outfit, making sure her makeup and hair is perfect, not to mention a thousand other things, carefully intended to attract men.

There is no way around it. Men pursue and women attract. In most normal cultures, the woman makes it very clear when and who she wants and the man then either steps right up to the plate, or doesn’t, depending on his inclination. Women compete with eachother in this way to get the best man they can. Women in our country want you to believe that they are so unbelievably high status that they can snap their fingers and get any man they want and that their main problem is beating them off with a stick. The reality is far different. The average woman either whores around (ie. takes anyone she can get) or spends long periods of time dateless. Either way, they go to great lengths to attract, but are way too neurotic to choose who, let alone make it obvious that they are interested. Plus, if you are interested, your value plummets and they don’t want you anymore. The problem isn't that the guy is a loser. The problem is that the woman is a neurotic freak who lost touch with reality a long time ago. She can't engage the mating game in any sane way... and loses big time for it. A woman has ten to fifteen years to get herself a man. After that, she is only good for occassional sex. Her status reflects that. Too many women find this out after it is far too late to do something about it.

Understand that when women are playing this game they are trying to fool you about something. They want you to be misinformed about your worth and options relative to hers, not only as an individual but men as a group. They do this for two reasons. They want to get someone much better than they normally should be able to (but are far too lazy and fucked up to, ummm, make themselves better). And they want you to accept behavior from them that you never would, if you knew you had options.

Don't be fooled by this. Laugh in the face of any fruitloop who thinks she can act bitchy toward you.

Plenty of fish in the sea.

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