Saturday, January 10, 2004

Bonecrker #10 - Women Choosing Scum


There are two reasons women go after scum... the one they tell themselves and the one that's true.

The one they tell themselves has to do with the archetype of redemption. Love redeems all things. To a woman, love redeeming a bad man proves the love is real (too bad their love ain't real, lol). Also, a man who treats everyone poorly but herself, must really love her. This is the biggest crock of bull-ony... but exploiting this sick, sad, self-deception will account for 90% of your free pussy if you live in the US.

Unfortunately, the real reason women dig bad/low quality men is they are bad/low quality themselves. These men have attitudes and behaviours that match their own.

Excitement is supposed to come from risk-taking behaviours that men like to engage in to have fun. But women find bad behavior exciting instead. It's normal for women to be attracted to men that like sky-diving, mountain climbing, and going off on adventures at the spur of the moment. It's abnormal for women to be attracted to men that like to beat women, have been in jail, and take drugs. But that's exactly what's going on today. All of the losers have all the women they can deal with (hehe, but evil people are bad for you....both ways), while all of the real men do without.
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Bonecrcker #5 – Women Choosing Losers
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Bonecrcker #6 – Women Choosing Extinction

Bonecrcker #16 – Women Love Assholes
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Bonecrcker #84 – Women Going for Evil Losers
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Bonecrcker #94 – Evil, Not Power, Is The Defining Attribute Of Women’s Attraction Toward Evil Men

Bonecrcker #118 – Women Who Marry Scumbags

Bonecrcker #144 – Why Women Are Attracted To Bad Men & Thugs

Friday, January 09, 2004

Bonecrker #9 - Boycott Those Who Disrespect Men


There is only one reason you see thinly veiled hatred everywhere in commercial media. The men who run that media have sold us out to pander to women. Way back in the beginning, it was simple, harmless fun designed to get a chuckle. Nobody had disrespect for men. That was the point. That's what made it funny.

But things have changed. Most women and many men have open hatred and contempt for men and our many accomplishments together and as individuals. It's not meant to be funny anymore. It's meant to be disrespectful.

There is, of course, only one real way to deal with this situation, and that's to hit these traitors where it hurts the most... in the wallet. Watch commercial media very carefully and boycott any product with advertising that shows hatred, contempt or disrespect toward men. This includes movies. You know what makes a movie a chick flick... open contempt, hatred and disrespect toward men. If some woman wants to go see a chick flick with you, tell her no and tell her why. Make it clear that you don't accept attitudes like that from her or from anyone else. If she tests you, dump her.

A very important part of this strategy is to never give a woman any money, ever, even if she is to go spend it on your behalf. Many men let the woman buy everything. Advertisers then use hatred, contempt, and disrespect towards men as a way to pander to these women who are making all the choices on which products to buy. It's very difficult to change the women so this is no longer an effective marketing strategy. But it is extremely easy to short circuit it... just don't give women any money and boycott products harmful to men. Eventually, they will go out of business.
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Bonecrcker #164 – The Media Is Being Used Against Us

EOTM: Boycott Manbashers

Thursday, January 08, 2004

Bonecrker #8 - Humanity Transmitted Through Generations

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Unfortunately for us, our behaviours aren't hard wired like those of many animals. Humans have free will. Most of what we are is transmitted from person to person when we raise children. All you need to do to know this is so, is to look at what happens when people refuse to raise their children (uncomfortably common). The children grow up feral. Most of the parts are there. But they aren't working right. Something of that child's basic humanity is missing. Sometimes, it is something quite large that is missing.
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The point is, that John Grey (geee, could this guy be more of a closet homosexual trying to subvert marriage and family) crap about men and women being different, so most conflicts are caused by miscommunications, is a total lie. Yes, there are biological differences. They pale in comparison to the socialized differences. But, men and women were designed to be together. Our makeup, on all levels, is created in such a way that we fit together.

Before all this shit started to happen (somewhere around WWII is my best guess), men and women had been together relatively harmoniously for a loooooong time. Each chose the other based on the quality of person they were and worked hard to survive, thrive, and most importantly, refine what it means to be human and pass that on to the next generation.

That process has stopped cold. Although there were slight hints of it in our parents and our grandparents’ generation, it's gone hog wild in our generation. The fact that men and women are different has absolutely nothing to do with the fact that they are "poisoning the well" of human goodness, en masse. They are denying our basic humanity. The results are everywhere to see in our society. The message is very clear; they only want men who will cooperate in this sick agenda.
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Wednesday, January 07, 2004

Bonecrker #7 - PMS


PMS is one of those gigantic lies that is disguised by a grain of truth. American women have a diet that swings from cake, candy, cookies, ice cream, chocolate, cocaine and booze, on one hand... to subsisting on a single string bean for days at a time, on the other. Among many other things, this leaves your hormones completely out of whack. So when that time of the month comes around, they feel like shit. This is the grain of truth.

The lie that surrounds this grain of truth is that wild mood swings, hatred, and psychotic behavior go hand in hand with this. Yeah, women feel crappy because of the consequences of their foolish choices in life. But in no way does that lead to bad behavior. PMS is a myth... a myth that bad women try to use as an excuse for what they do.

The next time a woman tries to use PMS as an excuse for behaving badly, raise your eyebrows, look her straight in the eyes and say "So?"
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Tuesday, January 06, 2004

Bonecrker #6 - Women Choosing Extinction


I just downloaded the book, If Men Have All The Power, How Come Women Make The Rules? Excellent book, BTW. It's filled with all sorts of interesting information.

Here's a quote that got me to thinking (originally from The Woman That Never Evolved, by Sarah Blaffer Hardy):

"The central organizing principle of primate social life is competition between females and especially female lineages... Females should be, if anything, more competitive than males, not less, although the manner in which females compete may be less direct, less boisterous, and hence, more difficult to measure"
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Normally, women compete fiercely amongst each other for men. Unlike animals, human children take a looooooong time to mature and our most powerful survival ability (our mind) takes significant effort to train and develop. Before the modern era, any woman stupid enough to take a weak, deviant man, who left after sex... died. At the very least, her child had slim to none survival value. Her lineage died out. Normally, women compete for the best men, that competition being intense when they are scarce. One thing they don't do is willingly have sex with an inappropriate man, unless there absolutely isn't anyone else. Men also compete for the best women. Or rather, for the status among our peers that attracts the best women. However, since we don't actually have to bear the children, that competition isn't as fierce. Survival of our line has less to do with who we choose and more to do with what we do. We (men) compete in who does things best. Women compete in who can get the best man. Men have the option of leaving. A woman who left usually died. That's the way it's always been and the way it should be.
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But American women aren't normal. They have absolutely stopped competing for good men. They go out of their way to devalue them. They freely engage in behaviours that result in the extinction of their lineage. They leave. They refuse to raise their children. They engage in infidelity. They choose disposable partners based on deviant behavior. The reason why women seem to be so scarce is not because they have made themselves unavailable but because they have ceased having any interest whatsoever in extending their female lineage to the next generation. There is a natural consequence for that... extinction. The children of these women grow up powerless and feral, with increasingly lower status. Eventually, their lines will disappear.

The question we should be asking ourselves is, are we a valuable prize that would normally be fiercely competed over? If you are healthy, strong, successful, educated and have values that would promote the well being of a family, then that answer is yes. We have been lied to, repeatedly and in a systematic manner. What is interesting is what might happen if you left our abnormal women and went someplace where the women are desperately competing with eachother for the best men. Especially if most of the men who live there don't have these traits. You might come away with a different opinion of where you are in the pecking order.

Food for thought.
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Monday, January 05, 2004

Bonecrker #5 - Women Choosing Losers

All women say they want a dominant, successful, high status man with enlightened values. It is extremely easy to identify where a man is in the pecking order; by his job, by his dress, by the way he talks and acts and by the way other men treat him. Everyone knows where a man stands.

This includes women, who could easily snap up a man like this who freely advertises if he is available or not.

The problem is that almost no women actually follow through with this behavior. Dominant, successful, high status men with enlightened values are regularly passed up for dangerous, weak, emotionally unstable drug dealers with bad BO and a rap sheet as long as my arm. The younger and more attractive a woman is, the more likely she is to ignore the good men and screw as many of the bad men as she can get her hands on. Not all women do this. Some screw as many fraternity brothers as they can handle a night, just as long as they are drunk/high and treat her like dirt. Any man who doesn't act this way is labelled a loser, no matter how high status or macho. It's hilarious, and deeply, deeply sick.

Then, when a woman reaches about age 25, she starts to hunt for a man who is both wealthy and weak willed. Both qualities are very important, because her sole purpose for hunting this man is to attach herself vampire-like onto him and drain him for all he is worth. They continue to screw bad men during the entire marriage. Strong willed men quickly say no to this crapola and move on to the next woman. After a while, they start to wonder if all women are vampires trying to trick them into a bad situation. Certainly they don't meet anyone who actually cares for him and sincerely wants to be his wife.

Many of our country's most powerful men are either unmarried, taken to the cleaners by divorce, or are stuck in a marriage that is an obvious lie, often making up for it with dishonourable behaviour. A perfect example of this is Bill Clinton. His wife is an obvious lesbian who only married him because he was going places and could further her own political ambitions (the pay off isn't always in money, lol).

I'm tempted to say that American women are unable to recognize signs of status, power and high quality in men. But it's not true. They know full well what the deal is and purposefully choose the weak, psychotic, scum of the earth until they want a meal ticket.

Real men are left without.
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Bonecrcker #118 – Women Who Marry Scumbags

Bonecrcker #144 – Why Women Are Attracted To Bad Men & Thugs

Sunday, January 04, 2004

Bonecrker #4 - Immature or Evil?


I think it's dangerous to chock women’s extremely fucked up behaviour to capriciousness, childishness and immaturity. These are innocent qualities you attribute to children that often make them endearing. You tolerate them. The crap that women do is much more akin to what criminals do......a repeated pattern of victimization with testing before hand to see if it is safe. If you tolerate criminals, they see it as a green light....same with women. Children, on the other hand, with very rare exceptions, are intrinsically good. They need guidance, not suppression of evil instincts and behaviour. Children grow up healthy and wealthy and wise, with proper guidance. American women are completely unaffected by guidance.

To put it another way, American women are not walking astray. They are engaged in intentionally evil acts with full awareness of what they are doing. If it was the former, you would simply shepherd them to another, better way. Since it's the latter, your behaviour must be designed to severely limit your potential as a victim.
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Women and Children

Letter to His Son – by Lord Chesterfield, 1748

Saturday, January 03, 2004

Bonecrker #3 - Shaming Language


One liners like "get a life" are attempts at manipulation. Women use them constantly. What they mean by "life" is whatever behaviours, attitudes and way of living (in this case, as a servile worm) they want. The implied message is that whatever you are doing instead of this is weak, wrong, bad, unworthy and worthless. If they actually came right out and said what everyone already knows they mean......"Stop behaving independently and demanding better treatment and certainly don't make me compete against better women, because that's wrong to do and it somehow makes you a weak and worthless person".....they might get a little bit of resistance.

So, instead, they say it in a manipulative manner. The real message is in what's implied and the knee-jerk emotional response they are trying to evoke. Like all manipulations, it relies on you being fooled by it. 90% of all women's power is based on similar illusions. If men ever wised up, en masse.....they'd be in for some serious trouble.
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"One of the most effective ways I have seen women using to gain power over men is by shaming men, using their tongue to put men down, to shame their sexuality, to shame their success." -- Char Tosi, Founder of Women Within in Good Will Towards Men by Jack Kammer
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"Shaming tactics." This phrase is familiar to many Men's Rights Activists. It conjures up the histrionic behavior of female detractors who refuse to argue their points with logic. Yet women are not the only ones guilty of using shaming tactics against men. Male gynocentrists use them, too.

Shaming tactics are emotional devices meant to play on a man's insecurities and shut down debate. They are meant to elicit sympathy for women and to demonize men who ask hard questions. Most, if not all, shaming tactics are basically ad homimem attacks.

Anyway, it might be helpful to categorize the major shaming tactics that are used against men whenever a discussion arises about feminism, men's issues, romance, etc. The following list contains descriptions of shaming tactics, some examples of quotes employing the tactics, and even color-coded aliases for mnemonic purposes. Enjoy.
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Charge of Irascibility (Code Red)
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Discussion: The target is accused of having anger management issues. Whatever negative emotions he has are assumed to be unjustifiable. Examples:

- "You're bitter!"
- "You need to get over your anger at women."
- "You are so negative!"

Response: Anger is a legitimate emotion in the face of injustice. It is important to remember that passive acceptance of evil is not a virtue.
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Charge of Cowardice (Code Yellow)

Discussion: The target is accused of having an unjustifiable fear of interaction with women. Examples:

- "You need to get over your fear."
- "Step up and take a chance like a man!"
- "You're afraid of a strong woman!"

Response: It is important to remember that there is a difference between bravery and stupidity. The only risks that reasonable people dare to take are calculated risks. One weighs the likely costs and benefits of said risks. As it is, some men are finding out that many women fail a cost-benefit analysis.
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Charge of Hypersensitivity (Code Blue) - The Crybaby Charge

Discussion: The target is accused of being hysterical or exaggerating the problems of men (i.e., he is accused of playing "Chicken Little"). Examples:

- "Stop whining!"
- "Get over it!"
- "Suck it up like a man!"
- "You guys don't have it as nearly as bad as us women!"
- "You're just afraid of losing your male privileges."
- "Your fragile male ego ..."
- "Wow! You guys need to get a grip!"

Response: One who uses the Code Blue shaming tactic reveals a callous indifference to the humanity of men. It may be constructive to confront such an accuser and ask if a certain problem men face needs to be addressed or not ("yes" or "no"), however small it may be seem to be. If the accuser answers in the negative, it may constructive to ask why any man should care about the accuser's welfare since the favor will obviously not be returned. If the accuser claims to be unable to do anything about the said problem, one can ask the accuser why an attack is necessary against those who are doing something about it.
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Charge of Puerility (Code Green) - The Peter Pan Charge

Discussion: The target is accused of being immature and/or irresponsible in some manner that reflects badly on his status as an adult male. Examples:

- "Grow up!"
- "You are so immature!"
- "Do you live with your mother?"
- "I'm not interested in boys. I'm interested in real men."
- "Men are shirking their God-given responsibility to marry and bear children."

Response: It should be remembered that one's sexual history, marital status, parental status, etc. are not reliable indicators of maturity and accountability. If they were, then we would not hear of white collar crime, divorce, teen sex, unplanned pregnancies, extramarital affairs, etc.
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Charge of Endangerment (Code Orange) - The Elevated Threat Charge

Discussion: The target is accused of being a menace in some undefined manner. This charge may be coupled with some attempt to censor the target. Examples:

- "You guys are scary."
- "You make me feel afraid."

Response: It may be constructive to point out that only bigots and tyrants are afraid of having the truth expressed to them. One may also ask why some women think they can handle leadership roles if they are so threatened by a man's legitimate freedom of expression.
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Charge of Rationalization (Code Purple) - The Sour Grapes Charge

Discussion: The target is accused of explaining away his own failures and/or dissatisfaction by blaming women for his problems. Example:

- "You are just bitter because you can't get laid."

Response: In this case, it must be asked if it really matters how one arrives at the truth. In other words, one may submit to the accuser, "What if the grapes really are sour?" At any rate, the Code Purple shaming tactic is an example of what is called "circumstantial ad hominem."
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Charge of Fanaticism (Code Brown) - The Brown Shirts Charge

Discussion: The target is accused of subscribing to an intolerant, extremist ideology or of being devoted to an ignorant viewpoint. Examples:

- "You're one of those right-wing wackos."
- "You're an extremist"
- "You sound like the KKK."
- "... more anti-feminist zaniness"

Response: One should remember that the truth is not decided by the number of people subscribing to it. Whether or not certain ideas are "out of the mainstream" is besides the point. A correct conclusion is also not necessarily reached by embracing some middle ground between two opposing viewpoints (i.e., the logical fallacy of "False Compromise").
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Charge of Invirility (Code Lavender)

Discussion: The target's sexual orientation or masculinity is called into question. Examples:

- "Are you gay?"
- "I need a real man, not a sissy."
- "You're such a wimp."

Response: Unless one is working for religious conservatives, it is usually of little consequence if a straight man leaves his accusers guessing about his sexual orientation.
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Charge of Overgeneralization (Code Gray)

Discussion: The target is accused of making generalizations or supporting unwarranted stereotypes about women. Examples:

- "I'm not like that!"
- "Stop generalizing!"
- "That's a sexist stereotype!"

Response: One may point out that feminists and many other women make generalizations about men. Quotations from feminists, for example, can be easily obtained to prove this point. Also, one should note that pointing to a trend is not the same as overgeneralizing. Although not all women may have a certain characteristic, a significant amount of them might.
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Charge of Misogyny (Code Black)

Discussion: The target is accused of displaying some form of unwarranted malice to a particular woman or to women in general. Examples:

- "You misogynist creep!"
- "Why do you hate women?"
- "Do you love your mother?"
- "You are insensitive to the plight of women."
- "You are mean-spirited."
- "You view women as doormats."
- "You want to roll back the rights of women!!"
- "You are going to make me cry."

Response: One may ask the accuser how does a pro-male agenda become inherently anti-female (especially since feminists often claim that gains for men and women are "not a zero-sum game"). One may also ask the accuser how do they account for women who agree with the target's viewpoints. The Code Black shaming tactic often integrates the logical fallacies of "argumentum ad misericordiam" (viz., argumentation based on pity for women) and/or "argumentum in terrorem" (viz., arousing fear about what the target wants to do to women).
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Charge of Instability (Code White) - The White Padded Room Charge

Discussion: The target is accused of being emotionally or mentally unstable. Examples:

- "You're unstable."
- "You have issues."
- "You need therapy."
- "Weirdo!"

Response: In response to this attack, one may point to peer-reviewed literature and then ask the accuser if the target's mental and/or emotional condition can explain the existence of valid research on the matter.
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Charge of Selfishness (Code Silver)

Discussion: This attack is self-explanatory. It is a common charge hurled at men who do not want to be bothered with romantic pursuits. Examples:

- "You are so materialistic."
- "You are so greedy."

Response: It may be beneficial to turn the accusation back on the one pressing the charge. For instance, one may retort, "So you are saying I shouldn't spend my money on myself, but should instead spend it on a woman like you ---and you accuse me of being selfish?? Just what were you planning to do for me anyway?"
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Charge of Superficiality (Code Gold) - The All-That-Glitters Charge

Discussion: The charge of superficiality is usually hurled at men with regard to their mating preferences. Examples:

- "If you didn't go after bimbos, then ..."
- "How can you be so shallow and turn down a single mother?"

Response: Average-looking women can be just as problematic in their behavior as beautiful, "high-maintanence" women. Regarding the shallowness of women, popular media furnishes plenty of examples where petty demands are made of men by females (viz., those notorious laundry lists of things a man should/should not do for his girlfriend or wife).
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Charge of Unattractiveness (Code Tan) - The Ugly Tan Charge

Discussion: The target is accused of having no romantic potential as far as women are concerned. Examples:

- "I bet you are fat and ugly."
- "You can't get laid!"
- "Creep!"
- "Loser!"
- "Have you thought about the problem being you?"

Response: This is another example of "circumstantial ad hominem." The target's romantic potential ultimately does not reflect on the merit of his arguments.
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Charge of Defeatism (Code Maroon)


Discussion: This shaming tactic is akin to the Charge of Irascibility and the Charge of Cowardice in that the accuser attacks the target's negative or guarded attitude about a situation. However, the focus is not so much on the target's anger or fear, but on the target's supposed attitude of resignation. Examples:

- "Stop being so negative."
- "You are so cynical."
- "If you refuse to have relationships with women, then you are admitting defeat."
- "C'mon! Men are doers, not quitters."

Response: The charge of defeatism can be diffused by explaining that one is merely being realistic about a situation. Also, one can point out that asking men to just accept their mistreatment at the hands of women and society is the real attitude that is defeatist. Many men have not lost their resolve; many have lost their patience.
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Threat of Withheld Affection (Code Pink) - The Pink Whip

Discussion: The target is admonished that his viewpoints or behavior will cause women to reject him as a mate. Examples:

- "No woman will marry you with that attitude."
- "Creeps like you will never get laid!"

Response: This is an example of the logical fallacy "argumentum ad baculum" (the "appeal to force"). The accuser attempts to negate the validity of a position by pointing to some undesirable circumstance that will befall anyone who takes said position. Really, the only way to deal with the "Pink Whip" is to realize that a man's happiness and worth is not based on his romantic conquests (including marriage).

Friday, January 02, 2004

Bonecrker #2 - Local vs. Foreign Women


Men and women are two sides of the same coin. Without each other, there can be no fulfillment and no peace of mind. Together, there is life. This is the way it has been since the very beginning. It is an active thing, not a passive one. It's not enough for the people to just show up in each others lives. Each of you needs to actively love the other.

Many American men are willing to do this. Almost all American women are not. To make matters worse, these women do not value the men who are willing to love them. Instead, they value the men who couldn’t give a shit about anything. He gets laid constantly and gives nothing to anyone (even himself). Since this type of man is good for nothing and is often a criminal, the last thing he is interested in or is capable of is taking care of a woman or a family. Women are also like this themselves, but pretend they are not. That pretending often extends towards making a phoney marriage and having several children she has no intention of putting any effort into raising. Most of the time, the point of the marriage is to manipulate the system into fleecing a good man of all his possessions.....rinse, repeat, until she gets too old.

This is not normal. For whatever reason, it is a problem endemic to westernized countries but is worst in the US, where our laws seriously enable these behaviours.

What many American men are figuring out though is they don't have to put up with this. By understanding the problem and its various aspects and, most importantly, the actual depth of the problem, he can avoid most of it, even fight back. The biggest obstacle though, is he is incomplete without a legitimate love in his life. American women use this fact as their greatest source of sinister manipulation. They will dangle the image of this in front of you constantly but never, ever give it to you. The reason is simple: they can't. Because they can't, they are completely unacceptable as anything but a casual sexual fling. But one that is constantly trying to do you harm, requiring extreme vigilance and protective measures. Hopping from one loser to the next, in the vain hope that the next one might not be like this is a depressing way to live. Rather than find a rare jewel, most men simply give up after a while and retire from "the game".

Most men don't know that this is abnormal. They think all women are like this and have always been this way. That's a dirty lie. A lie that women in this country foster in an attempt to keep men from looking around. It turns out, that things were never like this for our grandfathers and great grandfathers. It's a recent problem. More importantly, it's a localized one.

In large chunks of the world, women aren't like this. They are the way they are supposed to be. If you bond with one and then love them, they will love you back. Although this is only the bare minimum needed for a good marriage and a good life, it changes things dramatically.

This means that it is a good idea to date a number of women from these places. Because you will find a jewel there eventually. No matter what, you will find a large pool of women who are sincere in their attempts to be with you. Some of these women will be sexually promiscuous. Some of them will be nuns. Most will be somewhere in between. Luckily, sincerely loving women will be common, no matter what she is like elsewise.......because it's a seperate issue. If you want a nun or a tart, a schoolteacher, a welfare mom or a doctor, you will find someone sincere. Since you will also find the occassional evil person mixed in, you must learn to tell the difference. But the odds are stacked in your favour.

That just doesn't exist in the US anymore (but it was once the rule, not the exception).
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Bonecrker #1 - Abusive Behaviour

The struggle for dominance is a natural and normal part of human sexuality. There was this very funny joke on Star Trek the Next Generation, where Worf makes a comment that Klingon women like to throw heavy objects (with this introverted, lustful expression). What makes this joke funny is that both men and women in lust, yell, hit each other, throw things around and say nasty things to each other. Passion tends to leap out at odd times into unpredictable behaviour. This is the animal part of us refusing to be caged anymore. People in love fight a lot.


But abuse is something different. It is a weak, evil person attempting to make themselves feel better by inflicting suffering on another. It has sadistic and masochistic qualities. The people who do it will only do it if it is safe to do so. Men who do this tend to get drunk/high and then make up an excuse to beat their wives (substance abuse is a big, BIG part of abuse). Women tend to engage in protracted campaigns to get their partner to abuse them. The most common form of this is to be as disrespectful of the man as possible, especially in public. Physical abuse of the man is also very common. They keep it up until the man hits them. Then, they try to condition the man to hit them on a regular basis. Most importantly, they actively select only men that will beat them. They are very good at this. If they accidentally choose a man who won't ever beat them, they will make his life miserable and then abandon him.

The best, most effective way to handle abuse, for both men and women, is to nip it in the bud. Absolutely refuse to even give the time of day to anyone who even gives you the slightest possible suspicion they are abusive. At even the slightest hint of abuse, break things off immediately and refuse to ever talk to that person again.....no exceptions. This is important because abusers will test the waters with you by seeing if you will take them back. Make sure they find out that you won't.

This doesn't mean you break up immediately with someone just because you had a fight though. You will fight bitterly all the time with anyone you have passion with. It's the sadistic and masochistic qualities you are looking out for. Drug/alcohol use is a big red flag, as is any sort of criminal past. Especially look for any sort of past abusive relationships. Women that have been beaten by partners and/or raped, are big no-no's. It's extremely un-PC to say so, but most women who have been raped by someone they know went out of their way to be with a high-risk man. Again, drugs and alcohol are a big factor. You definitely don't want a woman like that. She will torture you incessantly for not being a rapist scumbag yourself.

It should go without saying that women who engage in child abuse/neglect deserve to be pariahs....accommodate them. They are completely unsuitable for even the most casual sexual fling.

Any woman that is any way involved with the sex for money industry (stripping, porn, prostitution, and politics) has 90% of her screws loose. This industry is all about letting someone beat them in exchange for cocaine, meth and other speedy drugs. Run very fast in the opposite direction.

Warning......the cycle of abuse tends to make both partners obsessed with each other. Obsession is caused by all situations where pain and pleasure are randomly doled out (just look at gambling, lol). If you fail to nip these relationships in the bud, don't be surprised if you discover you can't later give them up, no matter how bad it gets. Also, don't be surprised if your partner leaps out at you with a butcher knife from the bushes some dark night. Having evil people obsessed with you is a very bad thing.
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Bonecrcker #13 – DV Myths = Cold War

Bonecrcker #68 – Two Things That Men Need To Know About Domestic Violence
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Bonecrcker #87 – Abuse Is A Game You Can’t Win
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Bonecrcker #105 - Stalkers

Bonecrcker #180 - Sarcasm

Thursday, January 01, 2004

The Book of Bonecrker - Table of Contents

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Bonecrker #1 - Abusive Behaviour

Bonecrker #2 - Local vs. Foreign Women

Bonecrker #3 - Shaming Language

Bonecrker #4 - Immature or Evil?








Bonecrker #12 - The Most Feminacentrist Statement of the 20th Century 
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Bonecrcker #99 – Living Together is a Scam

Bonecrcker #100 – The Problem with Pre-Nups

Bonecrcker #101 – Why You Must Never Give a Woman Any Money

Bonecrcker #102 – What Matters is the Amount of Power and Choice You Have in a Relationship

Bonecrcker #103 – Raising Your Sexual Status

Bonecrcker #104 – Sexual Status is Similar to Employment Status

Bonecrcker #105 - Stalkers

Bonecrcker #106 – Captain Free Therapist

Bonecrcker #107 – Feminism is a Purposefully Destructive Ideology within a Larger Destructive Group

Bonecrcker #108 – Feminism Pushes the Whore/Customer Model

Bonecrcker #109 – The Benefits of Boys-Only Schools

Bonecrcker #110 – The Problem With Discussing Things With Women

Bonecrcker #111 – Gaining Power With Women

Bonecrcker #112 – Who Cares What Women Are Thinking?

Bonecrcker #113 – Everything Out of a Woman’s Mouth is a Lie

Bonecrcker #114 – To All The Girls I’ve Loved Before

Bonecrcker #115 – Women Go To Singles Events To Be Seen, Not To Pick Up Men

Bonecrcker #116 – Can I Ask You A Quick Question? You Married?

Bonecrcker #117 – Would You Strip Down In A Room With A Crack Addict?

Bonecrcker #118 – Women Who Marry Scumbags

Bonecrcker #119 – Sleeping With Single Moms and Cohabitating

Bonecrcker #120 – Women Pairing Up With Black Men Is Almost Always Based On Racism

Bonecrcker #121 – Women Only Have What Rights Men Give Them

Bonecrcker #122 – The Advantage The Big City Has Over The Small Town

Bonecrcker #123 – One of the Most Important Reasons to Have More Than One Woman at Once

Bonecrcker #124 – Women on Online Personals Are Just Wasting Your Time

Bonecrcker #125 – The Four Problems With Serial Monogamy

Bonecrcker #126 – A Woman’s Need To Talk Is One Of The Key Methods Of Manipulating Them

Bonecrcker #127 – Timing is Important

Bonecrcker #128 – Women as “Friends”

Bonecrcker #129 – Eye Contact

Bonecrcker #130 – Never Allow a Woman to Call You a Friend Until You Have Had Sex at Least Once

Bonecrcker #131 – You Might As Well Be An Unemployed Loser Living In A Van Down By The River

Bonecrcker #132 – Finding and Approaching Women

Bonecrcker #133 – Don’t Date Women

Bonecrcker #134 – Choosing Not To Marry Is Much More Involved Than Just Saying “Hey, I Don’t Want To Be Married.”

Bonecrcker #135 – With Gay Marriage Legal, Gays Might Stop Getting Into Marriages That Are a Lie

Bonecrcker #136 – Not All That Opposed To Gay Marriage

Bonecrcker #137 – Be a Lover, Not a Provider

Bonecrcker #138 – Sexist! Offensive!

Bonecrcker #139 – Religious Women and Projection

Bonecrcker #140 – Lesbian Women

Bonecrcker #141 – If You Don’t Have Sex On The First Date, Your Chances Of Having Sex With Her At All Are Slim

Bonecrcker #142 – Buffy & Xena

Bonecrcker #143 – Hold Out The Lure Of Validation… But Don’t Give It To Them

Bonecrcker #144 – Why Women Are Attracted To Bad Men & Thugs

Bonecrcker #145 – Feminism Causes Rape

Bonecrcker #146 – No Cover Charge For The Ladies

Bonecrcker #147 – The Dishonesty At N.O.W.

Bonecrcker #148 – Women Who Want To Cheat With You

Bonecrcker #149 – Women Don’t Actually Have Personality Disorders – They Have Asshole-ism

Bonecrcker #150 – Women With Past Abusive Partners

Bonecrcker #151 – The Woman Who Is The Exception Phenomena

Bonecrcker #152 – The Predatory Female

Bonecrcker #153 – People Can Choose Anything They Want To… But They Can’t Choose The Consequences

Bonecrcker #154 – Women Are Bitches To Nice Girls

Bonecrcker #155 – Types of Bad Advice

Bonecrcker #156 – Friends With Benefits

Bonecrcker #157 – Eating Disorders

Bonecrcker #158 – Part of Breaking-Up is About the Drama

Bonecrcker #159 – Men Who Sleep On The Couch

Bonecrcker #160 – Good Job On The Stats!

Bonecrcker #161 – The Old “Fat But Working On It” Line

Bonecrcker #162 – Women’s “Requirements” in a Man

Bonecrcker #163 – A “Real Man” Wouldn’t Shun a Woman with Kids

Bonecrcker #164 – The Media Is Being Used Against Us

Bonecrcker #165 – “The Problem” Is So Pervasive That It Is Difficult To Avoid

Bonecrcker #166 – Seeking After Money Is Not An Effective Means Of Getting Women

Bonecrcker #167 – Advice For Women On Inviting Guys To Approach You

Bonecrcker #168 – You Can’t Assume You Are Dealing With Nice, Normal, Rational, Loving People

Bonecrcker #169 – America Is Not A Socialist Country?

Bonecrcker #170 – Normal Looking Girls Get Hit On More Than Hot Looking Women

Bonecrcker #171 – The Problem Isn’t the Body, It’s the Mind

Bonecrcker #172 – Social Proofing Has Negative Survival Value For Women

Bonecrcker #173 – Questions For The Bonecrcker

Bonecrcker #174 – The Measure Of A Person’s Worth Is Their Actions

Bonecrcker #175 – Do Women Really Choose Men, Or Do Men Choose Women?

Bonecrcker #176 – Women Making More Money Than Their Husbands

Bonecrcker #177 – Responsibility And Power Go Hand In Hand

Bonecrcker #178 – Love Is A Verb

Bonecrcker #179 – Subversive Teachers

Bonecrcker #180 - Sarcasm

Bonecrcker #181 - Women Don’t Hate Men, But They Don’t Love Them Either

Bonecrcker #182 – Women Want Strong Emotions But Don’t Care If Those Emotions Are Negative

Bonecrcker #183 – Ladder Theory

Monday, December 01, 2003

Sends Husband To Jail To Aid Suffrage Cause -- The Milwaukee Journal, Sept. 21, 1912

The Milwaukee Journal – Sept 21, 1912

Mrs. Mark Wilks, whose husband is in jail because she refuses to pay her taxes, is credited with discovering a new and formidable weapon for the suffragettes. The suffragettes are generally women of property and they will follow Mrs. Wilkes example immediately, it is said.

The plan will work only in cases of husbands whose wives have independent incomes. Nor will it work in cases where the husbands pay taxes on their wives' incomes. Some husbands, like Wilks, haven't enough money to pay their wives taxes. Suffragette husbands who can pay are counted on to refuse to do so. Thus will a large portion of the Englishmen with suffragette wives be in jail shortly.

Under the married women property act a husband has no jurisdiction over his wife's property and income. Under the income tax he is responsible for her taxes. If the taxes are not paid, the husband, not the wife, is imprisoned. Mrs. Wilks refused to pay her income tax - $185 - and her husband was locked up. He will spend the rest of his life in prison unless his wife pays or the law is changed. When at liberty he is a teacher in Clapton.

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Sunday, January 26, 2003

The Woman Question -- by Stephen Leacock (1916)

I WAS sitting the other day in what is called the Peacock Alley of one of our leading hotels, drinking tea with another thing like myself, a man.  At the next table were a group of Superior Beings in silk, talking.  I couldn't help overhearing what they said--at least not when I held my head a little sideways.

They were speaking of the war.

" There wouldn't have been any war," said one, " if women were allowed to vote."

" No, indeed," chorused all the others.

The woman who had spoken looked about her defiantly.  She wore spectacles and was of the type that we men used to call, in days when we still retained a little courage, an Awful Woman.

" When women have the vote," she went on "there will he no more war.  The women will forbid it."

She gazed about her angrily.  She evidently wanted to be heard.  My friend and I hid ourselves behind a little fern and trembled.

But we listened.  We were hoping that the Awful Woman would explain how war would be ended.  She didn't.  She went on to explain instead that when women have the vote there will be no more poverty, no disease, no germs, no cigarette smoking and nothing to drink but water.
  
It seemed a gloomy world.  

" Come," whispered my friend, " this is no place for us.  Let us go to the bar."

" No,"  I said, " leave me.  I am going to write an article on the Woman Question.  The time has come when it has got to be taken up and solved."
 
 So I set myself to write it.

The woman problem may be stated somewhat after this fashion.  The great majority of the women of to-day find themselves without any means of support of their own.  I refer of course to the civilised white women.  The gay savage in her jungle, attired in a cocoanut leaf, armed with a club and adorned with the neck of a soda-water bottle, is all right.  Trouble hasn't reached her yet. Like all savages, she has a far better time--more varied, more interesting, more worthy of a human being--than falls to the lot of the rank and file of civilised men and women.  Very few of us recognise this great truth.  We have a mean little vanity over our civilisation.  We are touchy about it.   We do not realise that so far we have done little but increase the burden of work and multiply the means of death.  But for the hope of better things to come, our civilisation would not seem worth while.

But this is a digression.  Let us go back.  The great majority of women have no means of support of their own.  This is true also of men.  But the men can acquire means of support.  They can hire themselves out and work.  Better still, by the industrious process of intrigue rightly called " busyness," or business, they may presently get hold of enough of other people's things to live without working.  Or again, men can, with a fair prospect of success, enter the criminal class, either in its lower ranks as a housebreaker, or in its upper ranks, through politics.  Take it all in all a man has a certain chance to get along in life.

A woman, on the other hand, has little or none. The world's work is open to her, but she cannot do it.  She lacks the physical strength for laying bricks or digging coal.  If put to work on a steel beam a hundred feet above the ground, she would fall off.  For the pursuit of business her head is all wrong.  Figures confuse her.  She lacks sustained attention and in point of morals the average woman is, even for business, too crooked.

This last point is one that will merit a little emphasis.  Men are queer creatures.  They are able to set up a code of rules or a standard, often quite an artificial one and stick to it.  They have acquired the art of playing the game.  Eleven men can put on white flannel trousers and call themselves a cricket team, on which an entirely new set of obligations, almost a new set of personalities, are wrapped about them.  Women could never be a team of anything.

So it is in business.  Men are able to maintain a sort of rough-and-ready code which prescribes the particular amount of cheating that a man may do under the rules.  This is called business honesty, and many men adhere to it with dog-like tenacity, growing old in it, till it is stamped on their grizzled faces, visibly.  They can feel it inside them like a virtue.  So much will they cheat and no more. Hence men are able to trust one another, knowing the exact degree of dishonesty they are entitled to expect.

With women it is entirely different.  They bring to business an unimpaired vision.  They see it as it is.  It would be impossible to trust them.  They refuse to play fair.

Thus it comes about that woman is excluded, to a great extent, from the world's work and the world's pay.

There is nothing really open to her except one thing--marriage.  She must find a man who will be willing, in return for her society, to give her half of everything he has, allow her the sole use of his house during the daytime, pay her taxes, and provide her clothes.

This was, formerly and for many centuries, not such a bad solution of the question.  The women did fairly well out of it.  It was the habit to marry early and often.  The " house and home " was an important place.  The great majority of people, high and low, lived on the land.  The work of the wife and the work of the husband ran closely together.  The two were complementary and fitted into one another.  A woman who had to superintend the baking of bread and the brewing of beer, the spinning of yarn and the weaving of clothes, could not complain that her life was incomplete.

Then came the modern age, beginning let us say about a hundred and fifty years ago.  The distinguishing marks of it have been machinery and the modern city.  The age of invention swept the people off the land.  It herded them into factories, creating out of each man a poor miserable atom divorced from hereditary ties, with no rights, no duties, and no place in the world except what his wages contract may confer on him.  Every man for himself, and sink or swim, became the order of the day.  It was nicknamed " industrial freedom." The world's production increased enormously.  It is doubtful  if the poor profited much.  They obtained the modern city--full of light and noise and excitement, lively with crime and gay with politics--and the free school where they learned to read and write, by which means they might hold a mirror to their poverty and take a good look at it. They lost the quiet of the country-side, the murmur of the brook and the inspiration of the open sky. These are unconscious things, but the peasant who has been reared among them, for all his unconsciousness, pines and dies without them.  It is doubtful if the poor have gained.  The chaw-bacon rustic who trimmed a hedge in the reign of George I, compared well with the pale slum-rat of the reign of George V.

But if the machine age has profoundly altered the position of the working man, it has done still more with woman.  It has dispossessed her.  Her work has been taken away.  The machine does it. It makes the clothes and brews the beer.  The roar of the vacuum cleaner has hushed the sound of the broom.  The proud proportions of the old-time cook are dwindled to the slim outline of the gas- stove expert operating on a beefsteak with the aid of a thermometer.  And at the close of day the machine, wound with a little key, sings the modern infant to its sleep, with the faultless lullaby of the Victrola.  The home has passed, or at least is passing out of existence.  In place of it is the " apartment "--an incomplete thing, a mere part of something, where children are an intrusion, where hospitality is done through a caterer, and where Christmas is only the twenty-fifth of December.

All this the machine age did for woman.  For a time she suffered--the one thing she had learned, in the course of centuries, to do with admirable fitness.  With each succeeding decade of the modern age things grew worse instead of better.  The age for marriage shifted.  A wife instead of being a helpmate had become a burden that must be carried.  It was no longer true that two could live on less than one.  The prudent youth waited till he could " afford " a wife.  Love itself grew timid. Little Cupid exchanged his bow and arrow for a book on arithmetic and studied money sums.  The schoolgirl who flew to Gretna Green 3 in a green and yellow cabriolet beside a peach-faced youth-- angrily pursued by an ancient father of thirty-eight --all this drifted into the pictures of the past, romantic but quite impossible.

Thus the unmarried woman, a quite distinct thing from the " old maid " of ancient times, came into existence, and multiplied and increased till there were millions of her.

Then there rose up in our own time, or within call of it, a deliverer.  It was the Awful Woman with the Spectacles, and the doctrine that she preached was Woman's Rights.  She came as a new thing, a hatchet in her hand, breaking glass.  But in reality she was no new thing at all, and had her lineal descent in history from age to age.  The Romans knew her as a sibyl and shuddered at her. The Middle Ages called her a witch and burnt her. The ancient law of England named her a scold and ducked her in a pond.  But the men of the modern age, living indoors and losing something of their ruder fibre, grew afraid of her.  The Awful Woman --meddlesome, vociferous, intrusive--came into her own.

Her softer sisters followed her.  She became the leader of her sex.  " Things are all wrong," she screamed, " with the status of women."  Therein she was quite right.  " The remedy for it all," she howled, " is to make women ' free,' to give women the vote.  When once women are ' free ' everything will be all right."  Therein the woman with the spectacles was, and is, utterly wrong.

The women's vote, when they get it, will leave women much as they were before.

Let it be admitted quite frankly that women are going to get the vote.  Within a very short time all over the British Isles and North America-- in the States and the nine provinces of Canada-- woman suffrage will soon be an accomplished fact. It is a coming event which casts its shadow, or its illumination, in front of it.  The woman's vote and total prohibition are two things that are moving across the map with gigantic strides.  Whether they are good or bad things is another question.  They are coming.  As for the women's vote, it has largely come.  And as for prohibition, it is going to be recorded as one of the results of the European War, foreseen by nobody.  When the King of England decided that the way in which he could best help the country was by giving up drinking, the admission was fatal.  It will stand as one of the landmarks of British history comparable only to such things as the signing of the Magna Charta by King John, or the serving out of rum and water instead of pure rum in the British Navy under George III.

So the woman's vote and prohibition are coming. A few rare spots--such as Louisiana, and the City of New York--will remain and offer here and there a wet oasis in the desert of dry virtue.  Even that cannot endure.  Before many years are past, all over this continent women with a vote and men without a drink will stand looking at one another and wondering, what next ?

For when the vote is reached the woman question will not be solved but only begun.  In and of itself, a vote is nothing.  It neither warms the skin nor fills  the  stomach.  Very often the privilege of a vote confers nothing but the right to express one's opinion as to which of two crooks is the crookeder.
  
But after the women have obtained the vote the question is, what are they going to do with it ? The answer is, nothing, or at any rate nothing that men would not do without them.  Their only visible use of it will be to elect men into office, Fortunately for us all they will not elect women. Here and there perhaps at the outset, it will be done as the result of a sort of spite, a kind of sex antagonism bred by the controversy itself.  But, speaking broadly, the women's vote will not be used to elect women to office.  Women do not think enough of one another to do that.  If they want a lawyer they consult a man, and those who can afford it have their clothes made by men, and their cooking done by a chef.  As for their money, no woman would entrust that to another woman's keeping.  They are far too wise for that.

So the woman's vote will not result in the setting up of female prime ministers and of parliaments in which the occupants of the treasury bench cast languishing eyes across at the flushed faces of the opposition.  From the utter ruin involved in such an attempt at mixed government, the women themselves will save us.  They will elect men. They may even pick some good ones.  It is a nice question and will stand thinking about.

But what else, or what further can they do, by means of their vote and their representatives to '' emancipate " and  " liberate "  their sex ?

Many feminists would tell us at once that if women had the vote they would, first and foremost, throw everything open to women on the same terms as men.  Whole speeches are made on this point, and a fine fury thrown into it, often very beautiful to behold.

The entire idea is a delusion.  Practically all of the world's work is open to women now, wide open.
The only trouble is that they can't do it.  There is nothing to prevent a woman from managing a bank, or organising a company, or running a department store, or floating a merger, or building a railway-- except the simple fact that she can't.  Here and there an odd woman does such things, but she is only the exception  that proves the rule.  Such women are merely--and here I am speaking in the most  decorous  biological  sense--" sports."  The ordinary woman cannot do the ordinary man's work.  She never has and never will.  The reasons why she can't are so many, that is, she " can't " in so many different ways, that it is not worth while to try to name them.

Here and there it is true there are things closed to women, not by their own inability but by the law. This is a gross injustice.  There is no defence for it. The province in which I live, for example, refuses to allow women to practise as lawyers.  This is wrong.  Women have just as good a right to fail at being lawyers as they have at anything else.  But even if all these legal disabilities, where they exist, were removed (as they will be under a woman's vote) the difference to women at large will be infinitesimal.  A few gifted " sports " will earn a handsome livelihood, but the woman question in the larger sense will not move one inch nearer to solution.

The feminists, in fact, are haunted by the idea that it is possible for the average woman to have a life patterned after that of the ordinary man. They imagine her as having a career, a profession, a vocation--something which will be her " life work "--just as selling coal is the life work of the coal merchant.

If this were so, the whole question would be solved. Women and men would become equal and independent.  It is thus indeed that the feminist sees them, through the roseate mist created by imagination.  Husband and wife appear as a couple of honourable partners who share a house together. Each is off to business in the morning.  The husband is, let us say, a stockbroker:  the wife manufactures iron and steel.  The wife is a Liberal, the husband a Conservative.  At their dinner they have animated discussion over the tariff till it is time for them to go to their clubs.

These two impossible creatures haunt the brain of the feminist and disport them in the pages of the up-to-date novel;

The whole thing is mere fiction.  It is quite impossible for women--the average and ordinary women--to go in for having a career.  Nature has forbidden it.  The average woman must necessarily have--I can only give the figures roughly--about three and a quarter children.  She must replace in the population herself and her husband with something over to allow for the people who never marry and for the children that do not reach maturity.  If she fails to do this the population comes to an end.  Any scheme of social life must allow for these three and a quarter children and for the years of care that must be devoted to them. The vacuum cleaner can take the place of the housewife.  It cannot replace the mother.  No man ever said his prayers at the knees of a vacuum cleaner, or drew his first lessons in manliness and worth from the sweet old-fashioned stories that a vacuum cleaner told.  Feminists of the enraged kind may talk as they will of the paid attendant and the expert baby-minder.  Fiddlesticks !  These things are a mere supplement, useful enough but as far away from the realities of motherhood as the vacuum cleaner itself.  But the point is one that need not be laboured.  Sensible people understand it as soon as said.  With fools it is not worth while to argue. But, it may be urged, there are, even as it is, a great many women who are working.  The wages that they receive are extremely low.  They are lower in most cases than the wages for the same, or similar work, done by men.  Cannot the woman's vote at least remedy this ?

Here is something that deserves thinking about and that is far more nearly within the realm of what is actual and possible than wild talk of equalising and revolutionising the sexes.

It is quite true that women's work is underpaid. But this is only a part of a larger social injustice. The case stands somewhat as follows: Women get low wages because low wages are all that they are worth.  Taken by itself this is a brutal and misleading statement.  What is meant is this. The rewards and punishments in the unequal and ill-adjusted world in which we live are most unfair. The price of anything--sugar, potatoes, labour, or anything else--varies according to the supply and demand : if many people want it and few can supply it the price goes up:  if the contrary it goes down. If enough cabbages are brought to market they will not bring a cent a piece, no matter what it cost to raise them.

On these terms each of us sells his labour.  The lucky ones, with some rare gift, or trained capacity, or some ability that by mere circumstance happens to be in a great demand, can sell high.  If there were only one night plumber in a great city, and the water pipes in a dozen homes of a dozen millionaires should burst all at once, he might charge a fee like that of a consulting lawyer.

On the other hand the unlucky sellers whose numbers are greater than the demand--the mass of common labourers--get a mere pittance.  To say that their wage represents all that they produce is to argue in a circle.  It is the mere pious quietism with which the well-to-do man who is afraid to think boldly on social questions drugs his conscience to sleep.

So it stands with women's wages.  It is the sheer numbers of the women themselves, crowding after the few jobs that they can do, that brings them down.  It has nothing to do with the attitude of men collectively towards women in the lump.  It cannot be remedied by any form of woman's freedom.  Its remedy is bound up with the general removal of social injustice, the general abolition of poverty, which is to prove the great question of the century before us.  The question of women's wages is a part of the wages' question.

To my thinking the whole idea of making women free and equal (politically) with men as a way of improving their status, starts from a wrong basis and proceeds in a wrong direction.
 
Women need not more freedom but less.  Social policy should proceed from the fundamental truth that women are and must be dependent.  If they cannot be looked after by an individual (a thing on which they took their chance in earlier days) they must be looked after by the State.  To expect a woman, for example, if left by the death of her husband with young children without support to maintain herself by her own efforts, is the most absurd mockery of freedom ever devised.  Earlier generations of mankind, for all that they lived in the jungle and wore cocoanut leaves, knew nothing of it. To turn a girl loose in the world to work for herself, when there is no work to be had, or none at a price that will support life, is a social crime.

I am not attempting to show in what way the principle of woman's dependence should be worked out in detail in legislation.  Nothing short of a book could deal with it.  All that the present essay attempts is the presentation of a point of view.

I have noticed that my clerical friends, on the rare occasions when they are privileged to preach to me, have a way of closing their sermons by "leaving their congregations with a thought."  It is a good scheme.  It suggests an inexhaustible fund of reserve thought not yet tapped.  It keeps the congregation, let us hope, in a state of trembling eagerness for the next instalment.

With the readers of this essay I do the same.  I leave them with the thought that perhaps in the modern age it is not the increased freedom of woman that is needed but the increased recognition of  their dependence.  Let the reader remain agonised over that till I write something else.

SOURCE:
Leacock, Stephen.  Essays and Literary Studies, The Mayflower Press, Plymouth, Great Britain, 1916.