"Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife."
-- Proverbs 21:19
QUOTE: “The abandonment of men in contemporary society is so comprehensive
that a man who has lost a wife or lover not only suffers from the loss
of that deep personal connection, but from a fairly comprehensive
rejection by society in general. First you lose your wife, then your
kids, and then even your own family turns against you in many cases
(this is a lot more common than most people realize. American men’s own
mothers very often blame them and side with the ex in what is usually a
futile effort to maintain contact with grandchildren).
thrashing you get from the police and courts is just gratuitous abuse;
in many cases guys are simply numb to additional pain by that time.”
I would argue that the sudden and total collapsing of love, as it is presented to men, is evidence of its illusion.
Children are raised on it, women can expect it their whole lives in a
watered down sense, but men lose all right to it as they come of age.
Unfortunately, in the West, no-one ever tells them that this is their
heritage as men. They have to learn it the hard way, or go mad refusing
to learn it at all.
Other cultures, particularly those closer to nature,
had rites of passage for young men. The rite usually involved sending the stripling
out in the wild, on his own. He would be exposed to danger, expected to
survive on his own, and could expect no assistance. It was a symbolic,
and real, exercise to let him know that he was no longer the dependent
he once was. Young women were never subjected to the same. They belonged
to the community, no matter their age, their fertility or their
It is a feature of all men who go wild at women and take it out on
innocents, as well as their former intimates, that they are still sold
on the love illusion – they are men that fervently believe they deserve a
place in the bosom of society. The trick is maintained for its utility
in deceiving men into social contracts that are counter to their own
It’s the same the world over. Every deal won by trickery has a higher
harvest of woe than that done with all cards on the table and intentions
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